I have no interest in intimacy

[ladybug92]

In the last couple of months I have realized I don't think about sex not do I need any sexual pleasure from my partner or myself.

I used to like being intimate and liked my own 'fun' time but now I couldn't care less. What's wrong with me? I'd like to feel sexy again but I'm not really fussed.

I have a 2.5 yr old and a 4month old. They're both relatively easy and I get almost a full night of sleep every night. I am on the mini pill and a normal weight, 27years old. My husband is healthy and a couple of yrs older than me. He is in between jobs at the moment and I have lost a lot of trust in him for quitting one job without anything lined up while I am on maternity leave. Could that be it?
I don't know what's wrong with me, I feel deflated and like I'm not being a very good wife because I don't care to have sex. I told him I am struggling to be attracted to him because of this job situation so seems to be on me to initiate when to be intimate again.

I just want to be alone with my kids and that's it. I am so tired of all my other feelings. Has anyone felt this way before and did you go back to before? What should I do?

It could be the lack of respect for him about the job thing, but you have two small children! A toddler and a baby.. it's hard to feel like a sexual being even though you say you sleep. Plus the pill could be affecting it.. it always killed my sex drive, so in that respect it was a good contraceptive

You have a 4 month old baby, a husband who you have issues with and you’re on the mini pill which doesn’t contain any oestrogen so basically zaps your female hormones and can lower your libido. No wonder you’re not keen!

The minipill killed my sex drive and it took me ages to realise it was that, it was affecting my relationship so I swapped to a non hormonal IUD and there was a huge difference.

I’m another person for who the mini pill killed off my sex drive. I generally like sex daily, and when I was in the MP I didn’t even want to be touched.

I suggest switching pill.

Pill
Hormones from having a baby ( can take 18 months to recover back to normal and that is without breastfeeding)
Being touched out. A toddler and baby being constantly on you may mean you need to have space and not be touched by anyone else.
Loss of respect for husband.

Could be one of these or a combination