Atypical phone behaviour morning after night out - how not to leap to conclusions.

[UptownSquirrel]

DP (don't live together) was out last night. We last spoke at around 10pm. All fine.

He usually checks in by text when he's up on a morning. I had a busy morning, didn't hear anything. Rang him an hour ago and it rang out then went to voicemail. Tried again 5 mins later and it didn't ring at all. Haven't heard anything since.

DP has never given me any reason to doubt him and I genuinely do trust him but due to my past history (cheated on, ExH wouldn't come home, wouldn't answer phone, lied about where he was/had been - am in counselling for this) I'm now freaking out ever so slightly.

Will wait for him to get in touch but a seed has been planted now.

Tips on how to not jump to worst possible conclusion?

Eurgh I hate feeling like this 😟.

I’ve been the person on the other end of this and have been absolutely dying on my arse and incapable of picking up the phone / falling asleep and lose track of time

If he was out the chances are he’s just hungover and asleep rather than up to anything

Try and have a nice morning and don’t fret. You’ve called him now so he’ll see your missed call and ring back soon enough

It's 11am on a Sunday morning! He's probably sleeping off his hangover.

He's probably sleeping off a hangover.

I know 11am is not that late btw but it's totally uncharacteristic of him to sleep in this late even with a hangover. Plus he was only out in small local town for casual drinks.

When I went on WhatsApp this am, he hadn't been online since just after we spoke last night. Again, wholly uncharacteristic for him.

Not saying any of these things are bad, just not his usual behaviour. And in my experience, deviations from these usual behaviours mean something has happened.

Am not in a tizz. Cracking on with dinner prep and drinking tea. Will assume he's asleep till I hear otherwise.

Maybe he's lost his phone. Try to stop worrying.

Heard from him yet OP?

So he left his phone in an Uber last night on way to town. He realised in the first bar they got to and then went home. Used his laptop to track the phone down this morning and got it back.

He rang me from his old work phone as soon as he had charged it up.

I explained the nasty rabbit hole my scumbag brain had taken me down and we had a good chat. Am relieved that he's ok and that he got his phone back.

Thanks for listening and advising 💐.