What is this all about!!

[Twinkie]

DD came home from X2bs yesterday with a flyer about some boat trip they have been on - the boat was a clipper that my great great grandfather used to captain or won or something - on the flyer stepmonster had written that DD had had her photo taken on the boat and would I like a copy and do I thin kit would be nice for DD totake this leaflet into school!!

WTF!! - Last time I had anything to do wityh the woman she was standing in court telling everyone just what a bad mum I was and that DD would be better off with X2b - I am fuming - been thinking about it all morning and just don't get it - are they trying to wheedle their way back into my life because of DSs imanent arrival or what.

I would never have them in my life again - I detest both of them with every bone in my body and it is only that x2b is so far up their arses that they get to see DD because I would most certainly cut all confact with them forever.

Half of me wants to write to her and tell her that as a family DP, DD and I do plenty of things and take plenty of photos to build our memories with and we don't need anything from their side and half of me thinks just ignore it and hopefully she will go away!!

Either way now I am worried that they are going to try and complicate my life once DS arrives and I really think my arsehole of a father would go so far as court to try and get to see him - now what do I do??

On tiop of this I am terribly pissed with x2b - he has DD doing so many things and up so late that when she gets back to me on a Sunday she is sooo tired and can just about manage to eat her dinner before going to bed (at 6.30/7pm) and then invariably wets the bed during the night because she just doesn;t wake up - it happens every Sunday night after he has had her and it has just taken us 5 days to get her dry again after spending some of the holiday with him!!

And to top it all off she was brought back with her brand new trainers completely ruined - he just doesn;t have any respect for anything!!

GGGRRRR!!!!

Sounds to me like she's trying to get back into your good books. Ignore her

Hello Twinkie long time no chat

Ignore them, if they mention it ever blame pregnancy brain that you forgot.

Although I can see that stepmonster is trying to have an input inot DDs school-life you don't need to get your blood pressure raised about it now so just ignore them. Good practice as they may try who knows what to get in your indifferent books in an attempt to get to know DS.

X2b sounds like a right donkey, sorry no advice about him. When's your due date btw?

Hi Suzy - how is your new life - great I hope!!

DOn;lt worry about me having to make up some excuse as to why I forgot - I hate you and everything aboutyou and want nothing to do with you even passing pathetic little notes would sum up what I would say I think!!

Just was waiting for some sort of contact and think thisis it - am fuming that they even think that I would forgive them ever - I really wish them nothing but bad luck and if I could get away with it I would probably poison the pair of them - mind you he is just an idiot who is scared of losing his money if he gets rid of her and so is living a terribly unhappy life with a monsetr of a woman - she is malicious and horrid and I would be more than happy for her to get a terribly painful terminal illness to allow her to have plenty of time to sit and think about just how she has conducted her life and the 2 little girsl who's life she ruined over the last 25 years!!#

Can you tell just how much this runs deep in me - could I do you think get away with killing her in a fit of PND??

Oh due date 13th or 14th November.

FFS Twinkie, don't sit on the fence, tell us how you really feel

life is good thanks, very very good.

Twinkie, some people treat legal proceedings as a game where the person who best convinces the judge of their point of view wins - whether or not they are being fair or truthful.

Now that court is finished she doesn't need to adopt her hostile attitude any more, so she has dropped it. She expects you to understand this since she doesn't 'get' the way a truthful and honest person thinks and operates any more than you can make sense of her behaviour!

Awww sorry to hear about this twinkie try not to get too worked up though hun, it'll do you no good. Is there any chance you could get some pampering to try to de stress you?

Is she your stepmonster or your dds? sorry a bit confused.

Ignore them. Yes she's probably trying to get back in your good books, or maybe she is trying a campaign to coincide with the birth of ds. My dh's evil ex did that. She started creating "crisis's" that dh just had to go to her house (2 hour drive) for. Luckily my ds was 10 days late and she timed her really big crisis for his due date and really didn't have anything prepared for 10 days later. After ds was born she did a lot of 6 am calls where one of the children "had" to speak to dh. We eventually took to unplugging our telephone. The most important thing is to remember that you are way smarter than either of them and don't let them get you upset because that is their goal.

And next time, send dd in her ancient trainers, save the new clothes for yourself. They were probably ruined on purpose. Evil ex does that kind of thing too. Makes sure to tell us that kids have "accidently" lost/ripped/broken whatever new thing has recently been given to them by us.

twinkie -if she's a wagon and you know it clap your hands...
Your stepmonster probably does have some ulterior motive, she'll let you know soon enough what it is if you don't respond.
agree totally with sofia, they will not respect any of your DD possessions that you have bought so don't send them if you can help it.
it's easier said than done, esp when v pregnant but try and be dignified and rise above it, they'll eventually stop baiting you if you fail to react. Rant here instead - it's very theraputic.