She's a nice person, and initially she was close friends with a mutual friend of ours who then ended up moving away. I only really saw her every few months. At one point she asked me to do a flatshare with her but I declined as I was not sure i'd be staying in the area. She then asked again a few weeks later offering a reduced rent and I then wrote her a longer message explaining that I was considering working abroad etc. So it wouldn't be fair to move in then leave her having to find someone else.
She said to our friend behind my back 'oh, she sent me another long message today'.
Which I thought was rude as I was just trying to be nice and explain.
I once dyed our mutual friend's hair for her and then this friend apparently saw it and said 'no, that's not how you dye hair, you're gonna let me do it next time.'
Anyway I ended up thinking she was a little rude so distanced myself.
But eventually saw her at a party one night, we chatted more and I found her to be nice.
She used to see our mutual friend a lot (they are both very sociable and outgoing).
However, when she had a bf she seemed to disappear.
I did manage to see her once for a coffee. I then invited her to a party with me the following weekend. She cancelled saying she was ill and that we would do something soon. Then, I didn't hear from her for 4 months.
One day, she contacted me out of the blue and asked me if I fancied a coffee. She then told me she was single and I realised that was probably why.
I knew she didn't have a ton of friends plus she needed a sboulder to cry on so I met her a couple of times.
Then in the end she started asking me to meet up 3-4 times a week and go clubbing every weekend. I found it to be quite a lot, and i am a lot more introverted. Once a week would have been plenty and I am not really into clubbing.
The thing is, I felt that as soon as she got a new boyfriend it would go back to before, and that she was using me as there werent many other people.
In the end she just kind of stopped contacting me when I declined some invitations.
I haven't heard from her for 2 months now, no idea if she's with someone or not.
I feel bad, I never said anything to her, just said I was busy etc. Which i was, id meet often but found 3-4 times per week far too much.
Should I contact her and apologise/ask to meet up ?