As a side thread to my main one, I am just thinking, if 'thinking' about someone else while in relationship is ever acceptable, normal, understandable.
Or is it always the sign of some feelings to this person? I have read, a number of times amd in various sources, that fancying other people, or even fantasising about them is totally healthy and normal, especially if someone is with his SO for long, it only becomes an issue if people act on it.
And apparently women fantasise about other men than their husbands or DPs more often then men!
I mentioned, in my other thread, that I was in touch with an ex while splitting with the DP for the 1st time. Always thought it was just an ego boost, looking for reasurrance, boredom and so on and I still loved DP, not this man. But now I've realised that there must be a reason why I was coming back in touch with this particular ex and not any other. I do still think of him sometimes and always in a positive way. I am tempted sometimes to text him but never do it as it is pointless. This man has never let me down, first big love, first decent sex and I have only happy memories about him. We could not ever work out as a couple as we were very young when dating and then he moved overseas. But I do think fondly of him, even now. Does it mean I have some sort of feelings still or is it just good memories?
Is it different for men than women?
I guess I am trying to figure out if my current DP has any feelings for this woman he was texting. Is it only sex or boredom, or is there a chance there must be some feelings involved, if he still is or was in touch after over 2 years.
I think I could forgive sexual stuff but not feelings, it is something hard to fight against.
Is there a chance he is idealising her as they were not together for long?
Asking him is pointless, he won't tell precisely what he feels. Your thoughts?