So at the end of last year I started a thread about my mucked up alcoholic FWB love affair, many of you warned me off but I love him and have stuck with him. Anyways he asked me April time if he gave up the women and alcohol would I consider being exclusive to which I said no for two reasons, I'm still not in the right place for a relationship and if he gave up the women/drink I would want him to do it for him not to win me over. We have become closer and closer spending two to three consecutive nights a week together and he has stopped drinking so much. We went on holiday together a couple of weeks ago to the Caribbean. We had the most amazing time earning us the title of most loved up guests from staff and guests daily and our days together at home were just as close. The issue is he is now just seeing, one other woman, who is madly in love with him, writes him pages long letters and desperately wants him to upgrade their relationship to full-time, I've met her but she thinks we are just best friends. (She also thinks he went on holiday to Spain on his own) She is really nice and could be good for him and I'm torn because I don't want to loose him, I genuinely love him and want him to be happy, but also can't give him anymore and feel bad for the woman, even though he says to me it's him that is had and that I shouldn't worry as I have been around for over a year now and they have no future. It might seem like he has his cake and eats it and to a certain extent that's true, but it fits my lifestyle and keeps him busy (I always bolt when men get to needy) so I honestly don't know what to do for the best of everyone. Please don't judge me.