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I think I've been a complete bitch to my DH. Have I?

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peggotty · 03/08/2007 08:57

It's my DH's birthday today. LAst night he rang me from his mobile at about 5pm to say he would be a little bit late in (when pushed he said 7.30 instead of his usual 6.15ish) because he was in a meeting that had ran on and needed to go back to his office to do a few things before he came home. My DH has a loooooong history of doing this, i.e ringing to say he'll be a little bit late and then coming in MUCH later, usually having had a fair few drinks. This is what happened last night. He rang again at 8pm to say he was a bit pissed but would be home 'soon'. He wasn't. I went to bed at 10.30 and he wasn't home then, I don't know when he got in. He knows that when he does this I become almost incandescent with rage at him for it, and to be fair he barely does it at all anymore. But he did it last night, and this morning (his birthday) I have hardly been able to bring myself to speak to him. Our dd gave him the presents and cards from us (he was in spare room), and I gave him a hard time. Now he is saying that he is pissed off with me because of the way I've been acting with him. We had arranged one of my friends to babysit tonight and we were going to go out, and he's told me to cancel it because he doesn't want to go out with me. I think I might have overdone it. Before he said this I had gone in to say I didn't want to argue on his birthday but he just cut me off and said to cancel our night out. I feel terrible now. Any advice?

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EscapeFrom · 03/08/2007 09:47

Cancel the 'Birthday Dinner'

Go out yourself.

he is trying to make a martyr of himself - don't let him. If he says "Oh no no, you go out with your friend, , I shall stay home and lash myself with the bonds of self pity..." etcetc

Say

"Ok. See you tomorrow!"

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Anniegetyourgun · 04/08/2007 10:49

What is this with grownups making such a big deal about birthdays anyway? In between 18 and 60 there's very little reason to keep count. It's a good excuse to spoil yourself if you need one, but really, it shouldn't matter. If a (theoretically) adult man is not in the mood to celebrate his own birthday, if he'd rather sulk than have a night out, surely that's his problem.