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Is this just a reaction to stress?

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Drinkingwine123 · 09/08/2019 09:11

Been with my DH 9 years married 4. I moved into his house with my DD 5 years ago
He is generally a good husband and we get on well, but every few months he has a complete meltdown, triggered by stress.
He gets very hurtful, saying that he just can't handle any more, he's not happy and that he wants to sell the house and live on his own.
Normally this completely upsets me as I don't want us to split up, then he calms down and says we can work things out and things are good until the next meltdown
This time I feel very calm. I feel like he's right and that he will be better off on his own.
We are more like friends, there is no sex due to his ED due to diabetes, he never organises any time together, it's always me. He works nights, I work days and it gets very lonely at times.
We have always discussed our problems but nothing ever seems to change.
What do I do? If this is it I don't know what I'm entitled to . He owns the house and I have no money to go anywhere.
Do I just put it down to his reaction to responsibility of it all, or let him have the life he seems to want?

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Pinkmonkeybird · 09/08/2019 09:24

Sounds like you could do with relationship counselling or he needs counselling to sort out his stress triggers.

Also, take a look at this site with regards to your rights and the house:

rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-information/family-law/marriage-your-rights-to-your-home/#Do%20I%20need%20my%20spouse%E2%80%99s%20consent%20to%20register%20my%20home%20rights?

FuriousVexation · 09/08/2019 09:27

You mentioned diabetes. Is it possible these episodes are actually hypo?

Drinkingwine123 · 09/08/2019 09:34

If it was a sudden thing it might think it was a hypo, but there is normally a few days of him being very quiet and avoiding me beforehand

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