My boyfriend has been married before, they had a rocky relationship and separated around 4 years ago, we've been together for 2.5 years now.
They are amicable for their children's sake and myself and the ex wife have no issues and have met several times at things for the kids with no dramas at all. I've never been married and dont have children of my own. sometimes I do struggle to get my head around his past and feel a little insecure about the fact that he's been married before despite the fact that I know the actual marriage was nothing to be jealous about and clearly didn't work out. (I suffer with anxiety anyway and this does not help with my rational thinking 😂)
Although he never makes me feel bad awkward about it, I can't say the same for his family sometimes!
Yesterday we were at his brothers wedding and I was chatting to two of his aunts who id never met before. They felt the need to bring up my boyfriends wedding, saying that it was the last family wedding they'd been to and then went on to describe it and discuss the venue etc....this conversation was only the three of us and it made me feel so uncomfortable but I was polite about it and laughed it off with him after, however I then felt very small and worthless for the whole day because I then felt as though it didn't matter to people how I might have felt about being part of that conversation and it just made me feel like a bit of a joke.
His parents dislike partners ex due to her behaviour within the marriage but this hasn't stopped them dropping absolute clangers either and started conversations about boyfriends honeymoon with his ex etc when we are in a small group which doesn't make me feel great!
Am I normal to feel hurt by instances such as this and do others who are with men previously married feel this way or am I just an anxiety fuelled weirdo lol?