Hi All,
This is a really long story but i'm not sure what to do.
Essentially, i've been in a 7 year relationship that has almost entirely been long distance. This is due to my partners job which has prevented him living in the same country as me.
Initially i had education, a degree, and then lived abroad for a few years before returning to UK. Most of this time he has been abroad in the same country with this job.
Due to the fact we didn't know where this relationship would go in the first few years, i had no problem with this. However now we begin to talk more seriously about buying a house, getting married in the future, and him returning home (to work in UK).
This is all great in theory, and i will add when we are together, our relationship is amazing. We are very well suited, he's very respectful, can't do enough for me, i still love him very much after 7 years.
I am just finding it harder and harder to deal with the long distance, i feel like i'm running out of patience. He says he can't promise me he'll be home in the next year, and i totally respect it's not easy for him to get a job in this field. There are lot of road blocks for him in that sense.
But i feel like with no end date, there's no end in sight. I've been very open about these feelings and we've discussed it many times, he says he wants to come home, and he will, but he doesn't know when. He comes to visit averagely 1 week per month, can be more or less depending.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I love having him at home with me, i feel very happy and content. But i find it so hard every time he leaves, it's painful to miss him all the time.
Don't get me wrong, i have a job which i enjoy, i have family and friends here, so i keep busy. But it just doesn't feel 100% complete until he's there.
So i have this dilemma, do i continually wait for this relationship which makes me so happy, but makes so sad at the same time?
I could really do with some advice, i've stuck with this relationship for 7 years because i truly believe it's worth it. But i'm finding it harder and harder to say goodbye and i feel like i'm just reaching my boiling point really.