Why is my ex boyfriend treating me very bad pregnant with his child

[Belenluca90]

Me and my ex broke up after two year because of his sister. she wasn't approved our relationship from the beginning at the end One month and a half ago while he was celebrating his 30 birthday day she make him choose b/c me and her infront of his friends and family. so he broke up with me infront of all those people and telling me his sister will be always his first choice more than any woman. to make thing worst after 3 days i found out i was 3 weeks pregnant. and i had contacted and told him. but he told me he is not ready to be a father and ask me to abort it. don't judge me for did'nt take it out and for i am a woman who don't believe in abortion but the problem is that after his family found out i am pregnant each of his family contacting me and threatened me to take it out or when i have the baby they will do any thing to take away and not make see my child forever. since his family is sending me many offensive message including his sister by saying she wish the baby should die on my belly and that i should die with him and so on... i have blocked them. but now his mother is contacting my family to ask about the pregnancy and how i am. before she try to convince my parents to push me to take it out since my parents make it clear they will respect my decision and i am too old to decide for my self, now she is calling every week saying she want to know how i am and how the pregnancy is going. and now my ex is giving me a different signal saying one day he want to be in this child life and want to go hospital to the visit and one day he would told me that i am making a mistake and that i should abort it. to make it worst he is gossiping about me in bad way with all the people he and i know. and he is telling me everyone believe how horrible woman i am for trying to keep a baby who his father is not accepting. Now two week ago he told me he don't want no contact completely after this and telling me he want to see me in court after the child born ,for the child custody by telling me since he have a good job and money he will win to have the full custody of the child. and i feel stressed and too much in depression right now and don't even know what to do.

OK keep all the abuse and threats from the family. Keep the dithering and flip-flopping off him.

You have to put your feelings for him to one side until the baby is born. He is using your feelings to upset you which you don't need at the moment.

Tell your family that he and his family have no right to know anything about you or the pregnancy.

NC the lot of them and remember that a job and money doesn't mean that he will get full custody. Court will probably give him visitation unless he explicitly threatens to hurt the baby once born. Also most men threaten court but once the baby is here, they can't be bothered and don't actually want the baby.

Keep all the evidence of the threatening messages. You could report the to the police for harassment. This will make it much less likely for him to get custody when the baby is born.
You could also consider getting a restraining order against him. This will make if he contacts him again he could get arrested. Someone here recommended to me an organisation called Rights of Wimen who can help with this.

Think of the future and the worse possible scenarios. If you are sure you want to go ahead with this and the possibility of having these people in your lives forever, you need all the evidence possible against them. And then see a lawyer and find out about protecting yourself and your baby the best you can.