Something happened at the weekend when dp was drunk and it has upset me a lot. We have been together a year and he is six years younger than me, I am in my late thirties and have a child from a previous relationship.
We have a lot of banter between us and we have always been quite jokey with one another but sometimes I feel he oversteps the line . The jokes he makes are always based around me being older than him and I usually take this in good faith and give it straight back to him although on occasion I have had to tell him he has gone too far. At the weekend he went to the pub to watch the football and he had had a few drinks. He called me and started taking the mickey out of my age, kept calling me an old bastard while his friends were laughing in the background. He made a comment as well about me being lazy and asked if I was lying around like a slob or was I actually doing anything useful (I had actually taken DS out for the day so I wasn’t lazing around at home like he said I was). I ended up putting the phone down on him. He has made jokes about my age in front of other people before but not to this extent.
Since then he has insisted that he was joking but it has really hurt my feelings and it has given me a complex. I don’t know if I am over reacting here but I don’t understand why you would call someone you supposedly love and take the piss out of them like that. He says if my age was an issue he would not be with me but clearly it is a problem as it keeps being mentioned. I have received an apology from him but I am feeling very sad today, like I am old and past it and like I am some sort of joke.
I had been on my own for quite a while before I met dp as I was concentrating on me and my son. I took it slowly with him but looking back he has always been quite scathing of me, under the guise of him joking. Do I have a sense of humour failure or is this some sort of emotional abuse? I don’t know what to think anymore.