Just need a hug

[Frankie20018]

I just found out I've been seeing someone who was already in a relationship. I have a very bad relationship history. I came out of a very abusive and controlling marriage a few years ago with very few friends left so I have no one to talk to in real life. I just feel worthless and used, my confidence was already very low. I dont know why I'm posting, I just feel overwhelmed by life. I have 3dc and I work full time. I just feel really really sad.

Give yourself some time to be sad over being hurt, be kind to yourself.

Life will get better. It always gets better. Yes there are (bloody awful) down times, but there will be some bloody good up times still to come.

A hug for you lass.

Thank you. That means more than you know

hug from me too

Thank you Mike

Your not useless. I bet your DC love you to the moon and back. 💐

I'm so sorry, I've been in a similar situation and it's crap. Big virtual hugs xxx

Big hug - things can only get better but this will only make you a stronger person! There will always be a light at the end of this tunnel.

You poor thing, I'm really sorry. I bloody love a hug so sending TWO your way

I'm sorry this has happened to you. Sending you a big hug x

PS he's a shit and you deserve so much better!

A broken heart is a painful thing, you have my biggest warmest hug being sent your way.
It gets better, not today I know, but it will.
All the love songs tell us it’s a universal pain, you’re not alone x

Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply to me. It really really means a lot

You're stronger than you think Frankie, you WILL be ok even though you don't feel it yet. Ending the relationship took courage. Posting on here took courage. Asking us for hugs took courage. You're one brave lady.

You're worth so much more, you were worth saving from this liar!!!

You have been saved and rescued from greater hurt, because you deserve it.

Keep posting here, there will be loads of people with wonderful advice.

Holding your hand, and sending you lots of hugs xx

Anyone can be fooled - all it takes is for someone to trust - and we cannot live our lives without trust. So you have come away with everything you need to find something better. A pure heart! Your ex will never have or know that peace! Be thankful you won’t have wasted any more time. Don’t give too much of you away too soon. Trust is the basis of everything any of us have, and if you can be trusted then you have lost nothing that matters x

A lot of people out there suck. I sometimes find myself after things like that thinking 'does literally everyone suck? Like are they all shit?' The fact is, I don't suck and you probably don't suck either. So that makes two decent people lol.

Tbh I've started to think of it as light vs dark, the dark is always looking to stamp out the light. So if we often attract shitty people, it's probably because we are good ones. Maybe a self important way of thinking about it, but it cheers me up lol.

Not to say we don't have our own issues that could be contributing of course but I think no matter how clued up or careful you are, if you are a nice person there is always going to be someone looking to take advantage of it and sometimes, one or two slip through the radar.

I had a shit day today too, attracted a work narcissist :( :( feeling drained. Just trying to 'shake it off' now. Hope you manage the same, cause these shitty ppl aren't worth it.

Sending you a huge bone crushing hug- not too bone crushing though
You're bound to be sad and despondent, you've just had your heart broken, but just remember- he/she is a complete twat for treating you this way.
You're doing an amazing job bringing up your children and working, just focus on them for the time being, I promise that this shitty time will pass

You are smart because you found out.

If you close yourself to hurt, if you shield your vulnerability, you’re also not letting ‘the rest of it’ in, the hope, the excitement, the love.
You’ve done nothing wrong, you just loved.
Have a hug from me and please be kind to yourself.

What a lovely person you are to find being with some one (bastard) in a relationship a complete no no. As a cheated on wife I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I wish there were more with your moral integrity. 💐 xx

You're not worthless, far from it. Here's a huge hug from me.

Huge hug from a fellow broken heart 💐

I was a cheated on wife once too wastedyearsandtears and I would never do that to another human being. Hugs to you too x

For everyone shitty person there are 100 good ones. We have to believe it or it becomes impossible. I'm so sorry. You are not useless and you are worth so much. Don't let this bad experience dictate how you feel about yourself or how you move forward. You'll meet someone who deserves you and who will make your life complete. You will.

Thanks Frankie20018. I appreciate that ❤️ There is no pain like it is there - emotional and physical. The Op chose not to make another woman’s life a misery. She is a gem.