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Certainlyuser · 06/08/2019 20:47

My ex and I started to try again a few months ago, after separating for a year. We previously lived together for 6 years.

He hasn’t moved in again, however we have been going on dates, talking about trying to make it work long term etc.

Anyhow, he has asked for ‘his’ TV back to give to a relative as their TV has broken. I am totally gobsmacked and think it’s incredibly petty and definitely not something you would do, while trying to make things work!

He moved into my ready made home years ago. We paid half of all bills, food etc, etc. We had a car together, which I paid half of (and deposit) which he took when we split.

He took out a loan, which was part of our split outgoings for 6 years ie I paid half, There were also several times he had no work and I paid his half.

He is saying as he physically paid for TV, from a loan he took out, it’s ‘his’.

I thought we were pretty much equal when we split financially, as he took the car.

Obviously if I’m wrong, he can have the bloody TV?

Just feels so mean and petty and a deal breaker for me.

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user1486131602 · 06/08/2019 20:49

Just say no. Possession is 9/10 this of the law.
This would be reminding me of why we split!

ZzzMarchhare · 06/08/2019 20:51

Give him the TV and dump him. Petty and tight is not attractive.

Quartz2208 · 06/08/2019 20:52

Stop being a doormat it should be a dealbreaker he takes and gives nothing

Tell him its payback for the car and that is over

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Certainlyuser · 06/08/2019 21:08

Exactly it is reminding me of why he was an ex!

I have told him it’s over, just wasn’t sure if I owed him a TV. He doesn’t appear to understand it’s not ‘his’, it was ‘ours’. He took the car, which makes us more than even, in my book?

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HollowTalk · 06/08/2019 21:10

What a bloody cheapskate.

He took the car?!

Did he pay any rent during the time he lived with you?

HollowTalk · 06/08/2019 21:11

Tell him you want the car back.

Hecateh · 06/08/2019 21:13

Tell him he can have it and that it's your turn for the car now as it belonged to both of you. He has had it for x length of time and now it is your turn.

Or he can forget about the TV and keep the car.

Watchingthyme · 06/08/2019 21:15
Shock
PlinketyPlinketyPlonk · 06/08/2019 21:19

"Of course darling, when I get the money I paid into YOUR loan, and the money I covered you for during your periods of unemployment and I now get the car"

"Now off you pop, nd don't call me again until you have those items ready for the swap"

Prick

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Certainlyuser · 06/08/2019 21:29

Yes he paid half of the rent and half of everything, when he was working! Several times over the years he wasn’t for weeks/months.

Thank you, I’m glad it’s not just me who thinks it’s incredibly petty

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Watchingthyme · 06/08/2019 21:48

Give it a dip in the bath and then give it back

AdaColeman · 06/08/2019 21:54

Tell him you want to be fair, so he can have the TV after he gives you the car back.

Or easier still, dump him.

flappi · 06/08/2019 22:03

What a twat . My ex gave me a designer bag , but asked for it back when we split .

I have it back and then , guess what ?’ He wanted to get back with me and did everything he could including get my relatives involved .

Did I go back to him ?! Did I HECK .

I considered it a very lucky escape .

And all that time I was seeing the little shit , my husband-to-be ( and neighbour ) was watching on thinking the girl-next-door was definitely off the market .

Have you thought of the opportunities you are MISSING by continuing to see this idiot ??

Get shot of him and open the doors to someone new .

God I dated someone like that , and to think my husband to be was living next door , right under my nose , for months Shock

surreysnapper · 06/08/2019 22:03

hes not getting back with you.. he just wants a TV... sorry

flappi · 06/08/2019 22:04

Sorry * I gave it back

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Certainlyuser · 06/08/2019 22:18

I have already told him it’s over, just wasn’t sure what to do about the TV.

I might cut it in half Grin no, seriously on one hand I think if he wants it that much, he can bloody have it, on the other I think why should I, just go away, block and delete.

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ConfCall · 06/08/2019 22:28

I’d just block him now OP. No more contact of any kind.

flappi · 07/08/2019 00:12

Just ignore him . Loser .

Monty27 · 07/08/2019 00:14

He's cheaper than cheap. Dump him

AlwaysCheddar · 07/08/2019 07:31

No, don’t give him the TV. Block him! Cf!

Loopytiles · 07/08/2019 07:34

Keep the TV.

Why did you agree to him having the car, without giving you money to cover your share? That was a mistakeZ

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Certainlyuser · 07/08/2019 11:31

He took the car, there was no agreement!

Bit like the tv, said it was ‘his’. Has no concept of yes, the payments came from your account, however the payments were taken into account in ‘our’ outgoings which we went half on!

I really think he feels hard done by! He seems to see it, as I never physically gave him money, only he gave me money, so I got the better deal!

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