How would you feel if...

[LemonFritz]

You discovered your DH was having sex fantasies about his coworker(s) regularly and having very little sex with you?

Things have now turned around but I am finding it difficult to shake the feelings of betrayal.

How do you know about his fantasies because usually they just stay in your head

Did he talk about these fantasies with his co-workers?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3647173-Is-my-marriage-over

Some context from a previous thread. I think the lying, gaslighting and then big reveal have made it worse. I have always treated him how I would like to be treated and he has always portrayed himself very differently.

Portrayed himself differently to the reality, I mean.

Read your opening post on the other thread. I’ve not got a problem with porn and have indulged in a few work related fantasies in the past. But it’s incredibly seedy to wank over people’s social media - seems voyeuristic and creepy. At least with porn, everyone knows what people are going to do with the finished product.

So to answer your original question with a bit more background - I’d feel pissed off

I'd be more concerned about the lack of sex. (I haven't read your other thread)