What is wrong with me

[Elljack]

So I'm probably going to get a telling off here...I've already done another thread relating to my husband...but...I don't think my husband would ever cheat on me. But if I see him even converse with another female my anxiety rises and I feel fearful...is not a jealous feeling more panic. I know this is something to do with me...I left my job to stay at home with my daughter when she was born and I feel like maybe my self esteem and confidence has gone down a lot...I've never had high self esteem...but I just can't pinpoint this issue so I can improve it..I I don't think my husband will ever cheat...what is causing this anxiety and panic? It's like the thought of him laughing and joking with a female makes me feel ill...I know this is my issue I just don't know how to improve it

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I don't care who my husband chats to with any luck they will take him off my hands. Seriously what is making you feel so insecure?

Go to therapist so you can unpick it. No one on mn is going to be able to sort it out.
Best of luck with it op

I don't care who my husband chats to with any luck they will take him off my hands.

That's very helpful to the op, I'm sure she needn't feel the way she feels now since it wouldn't bother you!

Op, if you trust your dh and know the feeling are just your insecurities then I suggest you might consider some counseling to work on your self esteem and anxiety. You mentioned a baby girl so would it be a possibility you have a little pnd? It can manifest itself in a whole variety of symptoms, maybe a trip to the gp would help?
Are you getting any alone time for self care? Gym time? Hair and nails done? Nights out with friends? You can become too dependent on your dh after having children and that can mess with your feelings of self worth.

Sometimes being a sahm dosent suit everyone and getting back to work can reclaim your independence.

As a side note though, you feel your dh wouldn't ever cheat, and hopefully he never would, but no one can ever guarantee their dh wouldn't cheat, given the circumstances. How does he make you feel valued to him? Does he go out of his way to make you feel special and secure in your relationship? And that you are the only one for him? If he's not great at showing appreciation that can erode your self esteem too.

Hope you start feeling better op, I know how difficult it can be