Would you reply to an ex boyfriend if they messaged you 8 months on from breaking up with them? I have received a text last week, but I’m not sure whether I should respond. It is just a standard ‘how are things?’ type message but also asks if I have an item of theirs (which they could have easily replaced themselves after all this time).
Background: Seemed too good to be true kinda guy, we had a great connection. With them for almost a year. Broke up with them after ignoring red flags and not putting my needs first. In hindsight I think it is possible some of the behaviour they showed was possibly down to them being a covert narcissist. They had some mental health issues too that caused big issues in the relationship and wore me down.
My issue in ignoring their message, is that i am still quite angry about the bad treatment I received and lack of acknowledgment on their part for their crappy behaviour, that they are in my thoughts every day and I struggle to let go of the pain caused. I have constant arguments with them in my head. I wonder if I reply to their message, it will help with healing and letting go of the past. I know it was the right thing to end it, I don’t want any part of them in my life but my feelings of anger are so strong. I know they moved on very fast with another new relationship, which showed me their true colours and validated my decision of ending things. I just can’t stop thinking that I should reply, as I have always said ‘kill them with kindness’ and not be bitter/angry person, so feel I am ignoring my own standards. But I am so angry of their minimising of their part in the relationship that I just can’t let it go. Is this normal after all this time? WWYD?