Sh!t turning 35 and single

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Soon I will be 35 and single for two years. I am struggling to meet even half decent men on OLD so given up. I will continue to go to several hobby groups I've joined. But I am still not meeting men. I work with mostly women.

Wtaf am I supposed to do? What else can I do? I want to marry and start a family. I get loads of attention/interest, but usually from married men or men who no-one would want. I have standards, but am willing to compromise. Forgot all this for now - how can I meet more men? I am seriously starting to panic. Can't believe this is happening to me.

I get loads of attention/interest, but usually from married men or men who no-one would want.

The only thing I can think of is: do you find that you are too nice for your own good, so your time is occupied dealing with "men no one else would want" rather than those you would? The problem with inadvertently attracting the less fortunate is that any other men will usually back right off to give their mate a "chance". Then, of course, less fortunate guy is sad and friend still won't make a move out of friendship. You can find your time really poorly occupied in this way.

Haha no these are men on the bus, on the tube, on the street, in a bar or in the workplace. I give most of them a really hard, cold look and they are usually off on their way again.

It's the lack of even semi decent men in my age range that is concerning me massively. I've been on two dates in a year! And I dropped my standards massively with the two I dated.

Is it true? Are all the good ones taken? Dating in 20s was SO easy, but I wasn't ready to settle then. I had my career and travelling to focus on - and I don't regret it.

Sometimes a person will appear and he's 'not your type' no initial attraction, nothing going on, no chemistry. But likewise you could be chatted up by the most beautiful (to you) person who seems like your type. Some people have instant love at first sight connections, a lot of people have love a third/fourth meeting connections. Have no type, (that is for twenty year olds) have no physical ideal, have no plan and in the long run accept someone who is kind and gentle and who grows on you (as well as looking for people that are your on paper ideal) you will get a lot more dates and might surprise yourself.

Pish. I'd been single for over 10 years when I was 35. Met dh, moved to America and had ds. Hope for literally anyone.