I'm so sad

[MilkTrayLimeBarrel]

DH and I have been together for 13 years, married for 3. I loved everything about him - he made me laugh, was charming, kind and thoughtful - that's why I married him! Now I feel he doesn't care about me any more - he works all the hours there are, even weekends, when we go out, he spends more time looking at his phone than speaking to me. He never wants to talk to me any more - I try to raise all sorts of subjects but he just closes it down. We never go on holiday any more, although we used to always be off somewhere. We don't have sex any more either. I wonder if he might be depressed but he perks up for his children.

I feel so sad and don't know how to get the relationship back to where it used to be. I still love him. Advice please?

Oh Milk, you really do sound down, I'm sorry you're going through this.

Do you have any inkling as to why things have changed? Was it a gradual process of were you both just caught up with other things and then the distance just spiralled? What does he spend all his time doing on his phone instead of talking to you??

I think for now, "how do I get the relationship back to where it used to be?" is not the right question to be asking; first you need to know why it isn't there to start with. if I were terribly cynical I would suggest the answer is on his phone.