It seems small, but I think it's the last straw.

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I do 90% of the household chores including the washing. I work 30 hours a week, husband 37. Husband has been doing loads of washing this weekend as I've been on nights, I've only just realised that he's been taking my washing out and only doing his own and DSs. Im just a tearful mess that he can't do anything for me, I'm 20 weeks into a high risk pregnancy and really worried that this is the future.

@dontgobaconmyheart
Your first paragraph in that post is brilliant... simple , factual and absolutely true !

OP read that again and really think about if you want to live being treated like this.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and take care of yourself x

He’s an arsehole. You need to decide if you want this knob setting the example for your children or if you want to get away.

Sounds like my ExH, full of himself, hates anyone else wanting their perfectly reasonable needs to be met.

He turned out to be such a little man in the end, and a crap dad.

Funnily enough he showed his true colours when I was pregnant with DC number 2 - a high risk pregnancy. I felt incredibly trapped, so I understand, OP

...so, you are not allowed to get upset but he can storm out when called out on poor behaviour.

You need to start emotionally detaching from him, try to stop worrying about his reactions. Try to start enjoying this time when he has stormed out and is not in the house instead of worrying about where he is, if you should apologise etc. and just focus on self care.

Maybe read Lundy Bancroft's "Why does he do that?" or "Should I stay or should I go?" YOu knwo that a good partner would be asking what he could do help you given your high risk pregnancy. What a swine to let you down so badly when you most need a bit of tlc.

Sounds like you should be making plans to end the relationship.

This behaviour is emotionally abusive and verging on gaslighting, OP. Blaming you for being upset is a HUGE red flag. If my DH upset me like that he'd be mortified and apologetic, not angry and defensive. I'll echo a pp who recommends reading "Why Does He Do That?". You'll learn a lot about him, sadly none of it good.

So I'm guessing this isnt one off behaviour from your OH? How long has he been acting up?

Sounds like death by a thousand cuts, his attitude and behaviour sounds like the tip of an iceberg...

Don't be angry get even.
Whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.
You do yours and the childrens laundry, he does his own from today and tell him why.
He sounds like someone you should not have had another child with.
I feel for you and hope everything turns out fine with the baby.

His reaction is more worrying than the washing issue. If you can't talk to him about the way you feel without it offending him then you need to end it. He sounds like a nightmare tbh.

What the fucking fuck? I genuinely don’t think my DP would do this solely because of the fear of the repercussions AKA a bludgeoned head. He sounds like a right bastard OP. Especially in your BOTH OF YOUR current circumstances!

I have to agree with KUGA, but extend it to meals, washing up. Everything.

Haha he really wants you to now believe he was going to do yours!

You need an escape plan.