Age gaps?

[prettylittlebirds]

I've met a guy through work who is 18 years older than me, I am 22 he is 40. We've been seeing each other a couple of months.

The only thing I am worried about is what people might think about the age gap?

Part of me thinks ignore what people might think as long as I am happy.

What are your views on the age gap?

My finance is 15 years older than me. He was also my boss at work at the time! People had a lot to say about it believe me. But I couldn't care less, we are very happy and I don't even notice the age difference now.

Little bit less but my partner is 10 years older. We got together when I was 23 and he was 33. We are now 27 and 37 and have a 2.5yo together and love each other very much. Go with your gut go with the flow be happy and see how life ends up x

I think if your both happy it would be a real shame to let other people’s thoughts on age gaps make you question your relationship. I personally don’t think big age gaps, depending on the actual ages is a big deal e.g. a 40 year old and an 18 year old seems a bit weird - but at 22 your very much definitely an adult, I don’t see the issue. (That’s coming from someone who’s relationship age gap is a mere three weeks! And yet I still wouldn’t judge.)

That's a massive age gap. You're just out of your teens and will seem so so young to someone who is 40. Big alarm bells going off at a man of that age with someone almost 2 decades younger.

These posts pop up again and again.
Women in their early 20s gashing about men in their 40s and how well they treat them. How they are not used and mature for their age. How older men are so kind and know how to treat a woman vs men their own age...
And funny thing - I was one of those young women once. Always liked older men - for all the same reasons.
So I totally get the draw of an older man. It’s nice to be taken care of and admired. It was a fun phase of life.

I am now on the other side and close in age to the men in this equation. And I see men who date women that can be their daughters.
It’s funny really. These relationships are never equal, no matter what you think at this point.
He has lived a life twice as long as you, so it can’t be any other way....
No reason why you can’t have a nice time dating him right now. So why not.
But also - no reason to pick a life partner at 22. You have a long time to do that and shouldn't rush into anything.

I met DH at a similar age with a similar age-gap!
At the time, I was told that the age-gap feels bigger later on and I couldn't see how that was true!
Now I'm in my 40's, having fun with someone in their 20's is much more appealing than hanging out with someone in their 60's. I'm thinking of retirement options that involve caring for an old man or being a widow!
That said, of course I would do it all again. We are happy with a lot of love. But don't forgo your own needs for your stage of life.