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Sarapq2 · 02/08/2019 21:42

Me and my partner have got back together decided unhappy apart and despite everything we no good apart .
However he has a younger brother who he owes money to , every week he calls to remind him he owes this money so other half gives 30 quid but we are struggling I’ve had to delay the electric bill this month , my family gets us bits of shopping in and I use a food pantry , why should I when the money is there . They are family wouldn’t it be kinder not to put pressure on my other half and wait for the money ?

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WhateverName2 · 02/08/2019 21:49

Ofcourse he have to pay his dept??

shiningstar2 · 02/08/2019 21:58

Well ...that really depends. Your bil didn't have to lend your partner any money at all. He may have expenses you know nothing about which, because he isn't being paid back by your partner,are causing him money problems. Even if he hasn't money problems why should he not be paid money back he lent in good faith? You say 'why should I when the money is there' about using a food pantry. Why should your partner's brother not be paid back money he has loaned in good faith? Even if he is a millionaire he is entitled to have money he lent to you returned to him.

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Sarapq2 · 02/08/2019 22:20

Brother in law has no money issues unless you count his habit of drinking and doing nothing all day whilst his oh works.
I’m owed money from whilst we were not together but well I know I’ll never see it again .
I’m not disputing the money is owed but he could have the decency to wait a few months till his brother is settled in his job

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RodGallowglass · 02/08/2019 22:55

That's the trouble when you owe money - you have no say on when the creditor can demand it back. You can try asking BIL to wait for his cash but why should he?

hellodarkness · 02/08/2019 23:14

It depends what was agreed at the time.

If your dp asked to borrow it and promised to repay it on a weekly basis, then that's what he should do.

If the money was loaned indefinitely, and your dp was told that there was no rush or that he could pay it back at a time to suit him, then bil is being unreasonable (unless his circumstances have changed for the worse).

But since he was kind enough to lend you money, presumably interest free, and accept repayment in instalments, I think you should just suck it up tbh.

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