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Tinder date a bit odd, hook up or just a text-phobia

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HarmlessChap · 02/08/2019 21:04

Got a Tinder date this weekend both latter 40's her profile is sparce she messaged first saying hello and listing a couple of quite generic interests, communication is polite but minimal she asked if I wanted to meet. I suggested we have a drink and she pick the venue which she did.

Asked what she was hoping to get from tinder and she said to go on a few dates and see what happens. I said I was looking for someone special but also open to the idea of something more casual while looking, happy just to see where things go. Reply was "OK"

I asked if she knows the pub well, she said yes it's her local, which presumable means it's close to her home. Any attempt to engage in conversation gets a polite response but no attempt to continue the engagement, other than a couple of "how's your day been?"

She's either awful with texting or is just after a hook up (lucky me if that's the case and her pictures are recent) any suggestions on how I can tell either before or on the date as I'd hate to offend her by asking directly.

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HarmlessChap · 04/08/2019 11:57

I've been on a few dates got more booked. I wouldn't want to be too judgy, I'm just on my guard. I'll see how it pans out, offer up a cheap but romantic date for a 2nd, walk along the canal or something and see what reaction it gets.

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Rubbinghimsweetly2 · 04/08/2019 12:00

Not sure he sounds lovely, just saying things women like to hear.

I would go on a second date, we are not really ourselves on a first date.

Maybe something a bit cheaper next time.

She may not have had money for drinks, who knows.

kerkyra · 04/08/2019 12:05

Come and join us on the dating thread,its very supportive

HarmlessChap · 04/08/2019 12:33

Not sure he sounds lovely, just saying things women like to hear.

No I'm not lovely, I've heard that said a few times on here and it always makes me chuckle. I'm just ordinary but I know what kind of future I want and am simply looking to make it happen.

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user1479305498 · 04/08/2019 12:48

I think that’s the way to play it, something nice but not involving a big cash splurge.

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