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Engagement rings for men?

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RainMinusBow · 02/08/2019 11:14

So my fiancé and I are engaged and together we chose a lovely ring for me which is sooooo me-completely non-traditional but we both love it.

Although we plan to get married we're in no hurry. It will be second marriage for both of us, I already have two children and we are 38 and 43. We have other financial priorities at the moment-buying a house together eventually etc.

But being non-traditional and hugely in favour of modern-day equality, I see no reason why I can't but my fiancé an engagement ring too.

Anybody else's man wear one and any suggestions re style?

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JoJoSM2 · 02/08/2019 11:19

I know my DH wouldn’t wear anything other than a plain band. If your fiancé is a bit more flamboyant, you could just have a look around a few jewellers to see what takes his fancy.

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RainMinusBow · 02/08/2019 11:26

@JoJoSM2 Aw thanks. And thank you for not just saying "What a stupid idea, a man wear an engagement ring?!!"

Fiancé wouldn't want anything chunky or blingy I don't think but like me he'd want something a bit different with a bit of detail. It would be nice to have a bit of detailing to match mine if that makes sense?

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NameChangeNugget · 02/08/2019 13:05

I think it’s each to their own here. If you want to get him one, get one.

My DH is like @JoJoSM2 DH & has a plain band but, never wears it

Doesitevenmatternow · 02/08/2019 13:11

I am open to correction here but I heard once that polish men wear a band on their right hand when engaged then move it to left when married. I always liked the sound of that.

IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 02/08/2019 13:12

My brother had one. It was the mock up of his wedding ring, which he had specially made as it was shaped rather than just a plain band.

starsinyourpies · 02/08/2019 13:14

What about a lovely watch you could get engraved on the back?

ComtesseDeSpair · 02/08/2019 13:16

My DP wears a carbon fibre and highly polished olive wood ring. It looks great, is understated but stylish, and not too jewelleryish.

Flappyfishy · 02/08/2019 13:24

I asked my Husbands Mums blessing to propose... She said yes... I bought him an engagement ring, got down on one knee and proposed - so he actually had a ring, I didn't . I was really happy with that as I never really desired an engagement ring and he was very happy with his.

He just continued using it as his wedding ring afterwards.

I think 'each to their own' - every couple is different, however for me, I do find it slightly odd that when you're engaged, you have a ring on your finger as you're now 'promised to someone' e.g. not single.... yet typically, the man doesn't have anything.

Same with being married.... either both wear rings, or neither - just seems fairer to me!

Mitzimaybe · 02/08/2019 13:45

We discussed it; I was open to the idea of buying him an engagement ring, but he didn't want one, so we just got one for me. I do know a man who wears one, though. His is a bit like a signet ring with a black (onyx?) flat stone with a tiny diamond inset into it.

SeaEagle21 · 02/08/2019 13:48

Dh and I got matching engagement rings. They are gold bands with three little diamonds set along the front - signifying love, trust and honour. I don't always wear mine, but he has never taken his off.

AndroidSheep · 02/08/2019 13:56

My DH has an engagement and wedding ring. Engagement ring is a plain band, his wedding ring has more detail kind of a 'hand spun' look. He wears engagement ring on his right hand, wedding band on left. He has a habit of taking them off to shower or do something then forgetting to put them back on though.

Cupoftea7 · 02/08/2019 15:26

Only get one if he agrees. Most men wouldn’t want one.

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RainMinusBow · 02/08/2019 16:18

Awwww thanks for such lovely advice, it's cheered me up as we're going through a hard time at the moment having just had a miscarriage 😢

I'd love to get him something nice because like another poster said, we've both made a commitment to each other and I want him to wear it with pride like I do my ring. It wouldn't cost much but that's not the point, it's what it symbolises.

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RainMinusBow · 02/08/2019 16:30

@Cupoftea7 It was his mum that suggested it which I thought was really cool (and he agreed he liked the idea). When I think about it there's not really any reason why the woman should have the ring to symbolise her engagement but the man doesn't wear one.

Personal preference I know, but I would definitely want him to wear a wedding ring when we do eventually marry (which I know he will want to).

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