Partner & his female co worker

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I'm a bit worried that my partner is more than friends with his co-worker. He talks about her to me frequently. She's messaged him in the mornings saying she will not be in work when she could have rung up the office. There were kisses on text messages she sent him and he sent one kiss on a text message back to her. She's a lot younger then him. She also has a partner. They seem to have recent conversations with another ( he tells me in a conversation out of the blue) when he rings me up on his lunch break it's only briefly 10mins when his entitled to an hour. He leaves for work early and leaves late. I do trust him. Am I paranoid? Or is there more to this?

There's nothing there to suggest an affair, many people put kisses on a message as standard.

But this is MN and you'll soon get responses telling you it's highly inappropriate and there's definitely something going on.

I have to be honest, if I had an hour lunch break I wouldn't spend the whole time on the phone either.
It doesn't sound like anything. I send x's on every text I send, no matter who it's to.

Kisses on texts are maybe a bit odd, but many people put them on automatically so wouldn't be overly concerned about this.
Texting him to say she won't be in is standard, I would probably do this for colleagues both male and female.
And I have never spent my entire lunch hour on phone with DP.

When I say his entitled for an hour lunch he doesn't take that. At best he says he takes 20 mins and gets back to work. Or is he just saying that so he can spend more time with his co-worker ?

Maybe he does only take 20 mins because he's got a lot on
or maybe he takes the full hour but doesn't want to be on phone when he is eating or wants some time to himself to decompress. I love my lunch hour, it's my daily me-time.

Not everyone takes a full hour for their lunch. I don't think that's a red flag at all. Maybe he's just really busy - hence going in early/staying late.

Texting a colleague to say you're off sick can also be normal....as can kisses on texts.

Based on your op I'm not sure there is anything to be concerned about.

You’re overthinking this OP.

You want him to spend his entire lunch break on the phone to you? That is not normal.

I take enough time to eat my lunch on my lunch break then I get back to work.

My DH has never phoned me on his lunch break, let alone 10 minutes every day.
Sounds like a normal work relationship between colleagues that work together to me, but is there any reason why you shouldn't trust him?
You seem to have access to his phone, and he talks to you regularly about his work and his colleagues.
If he was being secretive,not mentioning her and hiding his phone I could understand it more.

Thank you for your opinion guys. It is just me but also have other problems on my mind which might be why I am feeling like this

Does she report to him or work on time critical work with him? That's the only reason to text that she wont be in.

The kisses on texts are OTT and a red flag.

Talking about her like this sounds like mentionitis. The next red flag is when he STOPS talking about her ... because he realises he needs to conceal it.

Her having a partner means nothing. Her being younger ... would he be this into sweaty Keith from Accounts? Texting with kisses?

Book - Not just friends, by Shirley Glass.

Go with your gut. Don't acquiesce to peer pressure to be "cool", if your instinct is screaming. Talk to him, tell him how uncomfortable you are, his reaction will be informative.