Why's he so horrible

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So husband left me ( I have a thread on it all) and I'm pregnant. I'm nearly 35 weeks and he said in June that he would buy me the pram end of June which I was surprised about because he didn't want the baby, he's been abusing ect but anyway then he changed it to oh I'll buy it end of July. Anyway things haven't been great between us and he hasn't bought the pram so I just went and ordered one on mother care on half price on sale and all I could afford. Anyway last night he text saying oh I hope you've not bought the pram because I said I would get it on Friday ( meaning tomorrow) so I cancel my mother care order and have to wait 5 days for a refund thinking he really was serious and wanted to at least do this one thing for the baby, now tonight he's said he won't buy the pram until he can see I deserve it and until he can see I've cleaned the house properly ect ( he's only saying that coz he saw stairs with a bit of mess whilst picking up kids)
I'm so upset now because I cancelled my order and have to wait for the little money I paid for one back 😢
Even though he's moved on and has a gf he still wants to be horrible to me 😢

I agree. There's similarities with my own father. He did things exactly like this. As a grown, pregnant woman he's treated me exactly how I seen him treat my mum (even while pregnant) They wait till you're vulnerable.
The fact he's using the pram as a tool to control speaks volumes. It's only a sign of what's to come. If he had the childs best interest at heart he wouldn't do that.

Thanks everyone. Regards to the birth certificate. I was going to put him on it BUT ONLY because he's on all my other children's and I didn't want this baby to wonder why she has no father on there. I guess I didn't Want her to feel different to her siblings. But then I was thinking maybe I shouldn't because he doesn't deserve it!! And wouldn't I get in trouble because we are married so legally he's 'presumed' to be the father and would I be committing an offence by not putting him on?

I just feel really sad that he did this yesterday. He said a few months back ' I will give you my word I'll buy the pram' and now it's 'I would only buy the pram if you deserve it and if you stopped spending so much time on social media'
Don't know where he gets that idea from because he's blocked on my Facebook! He just assumes I'm spend my days on it for some reason! He's not got access to phone and never has so I know I'm safe from that. Anyway I won't ponder to him. I'm just gonna re order when I get my refund ( I can't start the old order again) and I'm hoping that it's still the same price.

Some good news is that baby is on track for growth as I went for a growth scan today !!