How long did you online date before finding the right person?

[User2019a]

Ive been online dating now for nearly 2 years. I’m fed up. I’ve spoken to and met a lot of people and I’ve been bothered about only meeting one person more than once.

It feels never ending. I try and date outside of just online but those dates are few and far between.

I dated from April to August. Just came out from a 27 year relationship. To be fair I looked at it like a hobby .
I was on several sites. I chatted to loads of people and met lots of people.
Probably averaging 3 dates a week and sometimes two in one day at the weekend. I paid my way on dates because I didn't want to Ponce off them . I met some very strange ones . My friends begged me to keep dating as the stories were so funny. I did meet a few nice ones but there was no spark..Had a few short weeks where I only dated one man.
I then met the ONE. We spoke on the Thursday met on the Saturday saw each other on Sunday.We then both came off OLD . ( I had to cancel a few dates I lined up for the following week 😂)
Nearly two years later still so happy and feel I've met my soul mate.
I was 52 when I started.

I set up some online profiles with no pictures or detail very soon after my husband died. I wasn't interested in dating at all at that point but knew that I would want to meet someone eventually. Basically I was window shopping with an invisibility cloak and no intention to try on, let alone buy. Something to browse online.

About a year after he died I populated my profiles and put pictures on.
Over the next few months I received and sent various messages and chatted online to 2 or 3 men, but they all petered out.
Had a few messages with someone who was out of my geographical range and a year older than my 5 year either side cut off. When he suggested meeting up I though I might as well as it would probably make meeting up with someone else easier.
Came away from the fist meeting fizzing, kept chatting but couldn't meet again for a few weeks and have pretty much seen him every weekend since - just over a year ago.

Don't know where it will go, but it's good for now and atm that's enough for me.

So 1st person I physically met, about 3 months in to starting the process properly.

Gave up after a few years on and off. I know others who were the same. For all the so-called statistics about OLD being how most people meet these days, I know dozens and dozens who've used it but only know two people for whom it has led to a successful long term relationship (one married, one not, but the marriage was rocky within two years but they seem to have worked through it). Most had lots of first and second dates but no more and a couple had something that ran out of steam after two months.

I online dated for years on and off in my 20s, lots and lots of fun

Getting in to my 30s I had a few short term relationships from apps, changed app and then was only on it for 5 days cos I met my now DP who I’m now with for good.

Chin up OP, it does happen but my best advice would be to only go out with absolute 10s who you’re sure you’ll get on with / fancy. Don’t bother wasting time with people who you’re giving a chance to.

@NotMyStory that’s a lovely story, I really wish you all the best, you deserve some happiness

I found OLD to be a numbers and time game.

I stopped spending too long messaging/speaking on the phone. I found the longer I did this, the more I liked them but whenever it came to meeting something didn’t click. Like maybe it was an anticlimax?

I also saw A LOT of people. I worked shifts, so often I would have more than one date on the same day. Just small/ short meetings.

If I had a funny feeling about them, I just went with my gut.

I did NOT have sex on the first date. My meeting time and places didn’t allow for it. But the people I did have sex with on the first date were purely for sex. That seemed mutual on both sides.

I gave up, it was soul destroying. The people on the sites seemed to get worse and worse. I've not looked in for a good few months now (it's been 5.5 years 😩)

8 Years, Hundreds of dates around 21 short relationships then gave up and up he popped lol.

And I even got my own proper love story and a man who had admired me from affair for years and its been worth the hard slog dealing with the bores and the unbalanced lol.

How on earth are people getting multiple dates a day, week or month? If I get one every 3 months its rare!

2 weeks and was number 4! Im efficient

5 months. We're still together now over 10 years later.

Ok so putting my big girl pants on here and trying not think I am jinxing it by writing this 😳...dated online for about four years - some “relationships” (all not worth it) and so many one off dates I lost count. Then about one year ago swiped right (tinder) on a man who has made me happier in one year than all the rest put together. Who knows if we will make it but at the moment I am happy and can see a future with him. I didn’t really have a life where I was going to meet someone randomly out and about or through friends so focused on the online stuff. It was hard upsetting and frustrating but as matters stand at the moment so worth the four years of trying and waiting x