6 months pregnant and partner is leaving.

[anonty38]

Im in my late 30's and 6 months pregnant with baby no.5. My partner told me yesterday he plans to leave. His main reason........hes lonely and wants to spend more time with his friends. I forgave him after he had an affair and as a result my family don't talk to me. I live in the country and don't drive. I rely on him 100% to take me to hospital appointments etc. I am totally heart broken and I am so ashamed that ive allowed him to do this to me. I have no idea what I am going to do.

Oh god what an awful situation, I'm sorry OP. Can you repair the family relationships? You may find they're supportive when they know he's out of the picture. You have absolutely no need to be ashamed.

Is he the father of your other 4 DC? If not, can you move somewhere now while you're pregnant that will be more supportive for you?

Try and reach out to your family, did they disconnect because of how they saw your relationship was with him and didn’t approve ?

I'm sorry OP, he sounds absolutely crap and you and your kids deserve so much better.

Can you try speaking to your family now that he's gone? Obviously I don't know the whole story but I'm guessing it was hard to see him hurting you.

Hes the father of my youngest but has been the only father my other children have known. My family did not approve when I forgave him for the affair, it was a horrible time and ive not been the same since. Ive tried reconnecting with them but they are not interested.

It sounds like he is not the father of your other children. And unclear if he wanted to have this child. How long have you been together?
It also sounds strange that with 4 children under your care you haven’t learned to drive. You can’t always rely on another person. What it there is an emergency when he isn’t around?

Your bf sounds immature and in no way ready for the responsibility. You need to figure out the way forward that doesn’t involve him

If they really believe you will leave him (will you ??) maybe they will help

@MMmomDD telling OP she should have learned to drive isn't exactly useful at this point, is it?

@pog100

Do you disagree with what I said?
I still don’t understand how anyone can be in that position, especially with responsibilities over children’s well-being. And now a baby on the way.
OP decided to have a 5th child with a man who most probably never been a reliable partner.

Now that he is leaving - she has no choice but to start relying on herself.
Move, or learn to drive ?
Try to ask for help from family ?
Not sure what else to suggest

Up until recently I lived in town, everything was within walking distance, there was no need for me to drive. Ive done everything for my children myself and relied on no one and am very proud of that. The only thing I rely on him for is transport and that's only since we moved. Doing my driving test has been priority since the move and I will now be doing it asap. I also did not plan this pregnancy, I was on the pill. Thank you @MMmomDD I feel so much better.

He's had an affair previously & now he's leaving you while your pregnant because he feels lonely! He's fully aware you're reliant on him for transport & your relationship with your family is strained due to forgiving him. Where's his back bone?
It sounds like you might need to try to reach out to your family again. Remind him of his responsibilities & the position you're in.