Ex’s Gf sent unprovoked message WWYD?

[ScotsMumof1son]

Hi
I’ve been separated and divorced from my ex for a total of 6 years and he’s been with his gf for nearly 5 years. Her son and mine and my ex’s are in the same class at school.
Ex and I don’t talk at all because of her insecurity. I got a message on fb from her last Aug calling me a ‘slut’, I’ve only just seen it in the last month as it was hidden on fb messenger. It’s totally unprovoked, I don’t have any contact with her. Should I raise this to my ex as unacceptable? WWYD? She’s caused so many issues between me and ex with lying and her friends have harassed me, I like my private life to be private and keep myself to myself so being the focus of such attention impacts my anxiety.

It’s totally unacceptable and I have been in a similar situation in the past. However due to the age of the message I would let it lie for now rather then raking it up again. I would certainly screenshot it through and keep it in case things escalate again. In fact I would keep evidence if anything you receive in case it is necessary.

How do things currently stand? How is potential school contact managed?

Just keep your head held high and your dignity is all I can suggest. Very hard to do I know

This happened a year ago? Has she been harassing you during the past year or has she left you alone in recent months? If she has been leaving you alone recently, then I wouldn't say anything about it. There doesn't seem much point stirring things up again for something that was sent a year ago.

As you don’t speak to the ex, I would keep the message as proof, do nothing, and block her in social media.

Without knowing the circumstances of your split, unless things are acrimonious, you and your ex should be able to be in contact without his gf going off the deep end. You are still his parents and will always have a connection of sorts, but it would be easier if she kept things civil. How does she treat your son?

In your shoes, I'd definitely screenshot the message and send it to him. He needs to know what's going on in her head. It seems like her attitude would make things very uncomfortable for your son and hers. If your ex lives with her I can only imagine how it makes your son feel to see this other boy every day, knowing he is with your ex all the time. I feel for both of you if your son spends much time around her.

It was a year ago so I'd probably let it slide, but have it ready to show him the next time she causes shit.

It probably stuck in her craw that you didn't retaliate to the message, so don't give her the satisfaction now.

This goes to prove that ignoring people like her works!

If you’d have found it at the time, no doubt you would have reacted and that would have fanned the flames and would have been the first of many abusing texts

As it is, she thinks you are not arsed so has given up being directly cunt like.

This is a small victory with people like this. Bet she thinks you are mega cool calm collected never mentioning it....keep it that way 😃😃

Thanks everyone sage advice.
I have screenshots just in case her behaviour escalates.
They don’t live together, and my son is doing fine, neither his father nor I talk about the other in front of him, our priority has always been my done and ensuring he is happy, he loves his dad and his dad might have been a poor husband, but he’s a good dad and loves his son.
My son gets on with her fine and her boys. I feel she’s just incredibly insecure and it makes her feel more secure if my ex and I are arguing I guess, I don’t know. I’ve tried to sit down with her several times in the past but gave up as I would walk away thinking everything was good and calm then I’d get a call from ex kicking off because she’s lied and he’s going to believe her rather than me so our relationship is just messages via WhatsApp about son.
Appreciate all the responses leaving it feels like the right thing to do.

If it makes you feel better she’s probably livid that you didn’t respond to her in any way whatsoever (however unintentional that was).