Feeling like the OW

[ikkledudette]

I've been seeing my BF for nearly 5 months. We are both separated and he has DC which I haven't met yet (no rush). I can't say I've felt particularly welcomed when I've met friends/family/neighbours. Has anyone experienced this? I almost feel like the OW. I feel it's important to say his DW left him and we met OLD after their split.

How long had they split up though.

My best friend knew do before I did. And knows him better than she knew my husband. But had that not been the situation I wouldn't have introduced dp to friends or family for at least the first year. It took a year for uin to meet my family.

It's just a difference of time lines?

What has he said about it?

I believe they separated 18 months ago. He told her he was seeing someone because he didn't want her to find out from friends.

I must admit, I haven't said anything to him. I just wanted to see if anyone had experienced anything similar.

You believe? Sounds like you arent sure?

I think you need to tall about it. He maybe planning in never introducing the., or with g for something in particular. Does he even know you are up for meeting friends?

I think the first family you should meet should be the kids. I dont like the idea of all his family knowing you but not the ones that will impact your relationship most.

So I wouldnt introduce you to my family until after you had met and got to know the kids.

Sounds like you’re earmarked as a placeholder girlfriend

In what ways have people been unfriendly?

He may have lied to you about how long he’s been single.

I have met various family and friends through social situations I have been invited to by my BF. They weren't inherently unfriendly, but they were a tad stand offish. Almost like they'd made their mind up on me and didn't wish to get to know me. I'm a fairly friendly person, but I don't feel I was well received. Perhaps me being silly.

Sorry. I mis read.

Serves me right for posting while ds listed his favourite things about minecraft.

I see you have met them. I would speak to him.

Its hard without knowing what it is they are doing.

I had this years ago when I broke up with my husband, I had two children and the guy I was seeing had two children, his woman friends, mainly wife’s of his friends were standoffish, his family were okay but I knew they weren’t keen, turns out the wife’s thought I was too young, 8 years younger than them, and as a single parent, just out to capture someone to look after me, one in particular told me I just wasn’t good enough when I challenged her after a particular night out where she was very rude to me, his family also thought a single parent wasn’t good enough for him, I pointed out to him that he was a single parent too !! We both had had marriages that didn’t work out !!! Tbh I wasted too many years on that relationship, but I did meet that one woman years later, she was divorced and I asked her how she managed being a single parent