Hello everyone
Quick background …
Liked a girl for around 10 years. During this time me and her have both been in a relationship. We both have a child. She is married getting a divorce after her husband repeatedly had affairs. She is extremely kind, soft and sensitive so his betrayal has hit her hard. I myself have been cheated on and have been single for around 5 years since me and my ex (my childs mother) split. She is the first girl in 5 years that I have taken a keen interest in and its because she is such a lovely, kind, beautiful person inside and out. We started talking and get along really well and went on a date. She has been really positive about it all, telling family, friends etc. She has however been clearly affected badly by her ex’s betrayals so has raised numerous concerns with me over who I hang round with, that fact I follow 1000 people on Instagram, and so on. We went on a date and agreed to go on a second but we hit a hurdle as she went abroad for 10 days – not ideal timing and test for us. Its also worth noting after the first date when we had a kiss, I text to say I like her and she replied saying based on the date she felt like I didn’t.
The other day I shared a post on Facebook and she text me thinking the post was aimed at her (I am unsure why she would think this) she said if she has upset me then shes sorry, shes too old to be playing games, shes been hurt a lot and she would rather be on her own. I clarified the post explaining it wasn’t aimed at her or anyone in particular and if she had of upset me id of come to her direct, not share a post aimed at her. She hasn’t responded.
The majority of the advice I will receive will be to bin her of as it’s only been 1 date and she has too many issues and I completely get that however, I have liked this girl for years and she is such a genuine nice girl. To me it would be a huge shame to bin it off because she has incorrectly assumed a social media post is about her. She has told me that she likes me also.
So, any advice apart from binning her off? I sent her 3 texts on the bounce clarifying the post and how its unfair to keep having to defend myself when i am a nice person just like she is. She didn’t respond to these texts . I think the advice to myself is, ive clarified the social media post and sent 3 messages that she hasn’t replied to. I just need to give her some space to have a think, realise how she is being and hope she will come around. If she doesn’t come around in a week or 2 maybe just follow it up with one last ditch attempt and if that doesn’t work then at least I can say I did everything. I feel I have to prove how much I like her and not just give up easily.
If anyone can help me then please offer your advice. Thank you
I hate when you first start dating someone trying to figure each other out!