No sex - he thinks its funny

[Alfiesmom15]

So me and my partner have had sex once in 12 months. It's been dwindling the last couple years and even though you dont want to count the amount of times. Ita hard not to when it's such a rarity... ( I came off contraception 2 months ago to see if it would help with migraines and other issues, we discussed it beforehand and in all honesty I just thought what's the point in putting all those extra hormones in my body when I ain't getting any) any the other night we were talking about stuff and I mentioned headaches ir something and he was like I thought that's why you came off the pill... and anyway you probably thought what's the point and found it hilariously funny....
Why would it be funny we dont have a sex life? I dont see any humour in that side of things whatsoever ever.... I kind of want to ask why he finds it so funny but I dont even know how.... it's literally been tearing me apart the last couple years with the lack of intimacy and he thinks it's one big bloody joke.

From a male perspective, are you aware of him having issues functioning down there? Does he seem content or happy with other aspects of your lives? Is he a fit/healthy individual physically?

You say he only works part time weekends, stays up all night watching TV etc. That doesn't sound like he has a massive amount of self esteem. Does he generally have a dry or self depreciating sense of humour? If I "stopped working" or was otherwise having difficulties and was having difficulty facing up to them, I could easily imagine saying something like "What's the point of taking the pill anyway?" followed by laughing, but I'd be feeling anger and shame at myself for having the problem.

I have what would be considered a relatively low sex drive, but to not want to have sex with my partner at all? There's something deeper going wrong somewhere, and I would suggest with him.

No not aware of any problems, he works nights at the weekend so during the week it's hard for his.to switch off at 10pm which I do understand, i might write an email of something so he has time to process what I'm saying.... at the minute I got all sorts of emotions going on I might end up losing my temper

The laughing could be nerves

If he only works nights at weekends, what exactly is he doing for the rest of the week?

He looks after our son while I work full time.

Does he make you feel loved in other ways? Does he cuddle you, hold your hand when out, kiss yoh and tell you he loves you op ? If not then i don't see what you have left together. I would wonder if he was seeing anyone else whilst you are at work. No sex at all would be deal breaker for me, especially if he was laughing about it. Don't throw away your chances of future happiness on this dysfunctional man.

He's become a porn addict. Simple as. If he's not Ill, no ow, and not on antidepressants, it's porn.

I dont know what to think anymore.... he still kisses me not that often anymore but he still does.... he will randomly text me every now and then to tell me he loves me....theres defo no other women, I went down that route in the beginning and I'm quite the detective (I'm joking) but seriously hes such a rubbish liar and all the probing I did theres defo no one else.....