Is he putting it on?

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Changed my name as I am a regular poster and find this embarrasing, I'm not a troll before anyone says it.

Basically I met a guy on the net about 3 months ago, after extensive emails and msn conversations we decided to meet up, we met at a nearby pub and then went for a meal afterwards.

He got on great but he told me early on in the evening that he suffered from a hyperactive disorder, I just though fair enough...my own son suffers from one too so no big deal. Anyway he told me that if he ate certain foods of drank fizzy drinks he would be climbing the wall but let me know that this didnt stop him eating/drinking them and he went and bought himself (and me) a coke.

Within 15 minutes he started acting all wierd, making stupid noises, acting daft and genereally just being really OTT. Once we moved to the resteraunt he got worse and ended up knocking a drink over through being stupid and he just burst out laughing at the mess. I laughed along to an extent (more through embarrassment) but apologised to the waiter and the people around us.

Anyway apart from this we had a decent night and he didn't mention his behaviour afterwards so neither did I. Last night however we went out again and he was the same, if not worse than the first night, he enptied a crisp packet over his head in the pub, made loud, stupid noises all night and actually got asked to calm down by the man behind the bar.

I'm not sure if this is genuine or put on, I've never known a drink effect someone as bad as this, not an adult anyway and although I do like him alot I'm wondering why an adult would put on such behaviour if indeed it is all an act.

Am I being to picky or harsh? how do I tell if its genuine?

If he knows it affects him like this I don't get why he would still be drinking coke etc?

I'm not sure if he is putting it on because like you said why would he?

V strange situation

Even if it is genuine why is he eating/drinking stuff that he knows will cause him to act like that? From people I know in RL (family and friends) they often go through this as an act of rebellion in their teens, but not as an adult.

I would distance myself tbh.

Not very helpful I know but he sounds like a bit of a nutjob and I would be a bit sus of anyone you meet on t'internet.

Oh lordy, I'm sorry, but I wouldn't go out with him again. If he knows it affects him in this way (assuming it really does), then why does he drink them? Forget him - you sound like a lovely, kind, forgiving person to me, and you deserve someone better. Obviously, if he really has such a condition, then I'm sorry for him, but why the hell does he make it worse?

Sounds like a twat, to be honest. If it's a genuine condition, and he still eats the foods that exacerbate it, he's a twat. And if he's having you on, he's a twat too. Sorry if that's harsh.

Blimey, I wouldn't want to go out with him again.

How can you 'like him alot' if he is an embarrasment in public?

Steer clear, unless of course you really WANT to add stress into your life.

BUT... you said you like this guy a lot. So if this is the only thing, although quite a big issue, that's bothering you, then talk to him and let him know. Tell him that you understand he has hyperactive disorder, but you're struggling to understand why he would purposely drink and eat food that aggravate it. Tell him you like him but see if he'll talk about it. And if it does turn out that he's putting it on, then he's a bit of a nutjob and think about whether you're willing to put up with it!

Good Luck

I would run a mile

Very quickly

How old is he? I didn't realize, (but then I don't know much about it), that adults reacted in such a severe way to fizzy drinks, etc.

I mean, I know lots of kids do, but doesn't it lessen with age?

A) Ask him about it and make your decision on his answer.
B) Ignore him and severe all contact.
C) You have one child already with extra needs, do youwant another one?

I think it can lessen wiht age, but doesn't always.

My sister's has never calmed down. Throw in hormones to the mix and it's so much fun

But then she doesn't deliberately eat/drink things to set it off. Can be a pain and I understand why she rebelled in her teenage years. None of her allergies are life threatening and she has been on a variety of strict diets throughout her life. Its a pain for her.

But an adult I would expect to have more self-control.

i think it's a wind up
he's probably seeing just how far he can take it...
maybe he's got a bet going on? writing a blog? i would get out, now.

is that really a genuine hyperactive disorder? I would have thought a reaction would be more like tapping feet, not being able to sit down or stand still, jittery rather than tipping a packet of crisps over his head?

amidaiwish, thats what I thought at first, maybe he is taking the piss and telling all his mates about it or writing a blog etc

i can't see what the throwing his crisps over his head would have to do with hyperactivity, but then I know nothing about this kind of thing so ignore me

tis very mean if he is taking the piss

i think he has seen too many jim carey movies and thinks this is endearing in some form.

Maybe his mates find it funny when he's like this? And he doesn't realise they're laughing at him really, not with?

I'd talk to him, if you really like him, otherwise I'd get rid.

I don't know how old either of you are but you sound quite young if your allowing yourself to put up with this kind of childish behaviour from someone you barely know. Many partners put up with stupid incidents and faults usually because they have been together for many years, have children or other commitments and/or are completely in love with them and put up with the odd flaw/mistake etc. You have neither with this person.

I can't understand how you can say you like him alot ? he sounds like a total pr!ck to me and I've met enough of them in my time to know you'd be wise to get out now. You don't need someone like this in your or your childs life.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but it's true x

Oh, I can see it and I'm cringing. I'd have crawled under the table and died if I'd been you!

I really think he's taking the piss. Are you sure there was nobody there with a hidden camera? Are you going to be a youtube star??

OMG

Step away.....