Husband gone to work despite me bleeding in pregnancy

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I need to know if I'm overreacting.

I'm 11+6 pregnant with twins, my 12wk scan isn't until 13+6.
Woke up this morning to find bright red spots, which have continued for the next hour.
Told husband, and he went to work. Not usual work, or an important meeting, but a networking event which is an activity he will absolutely love doing. I have absolutely no doubt that if he'd have told his boss and the event organiser why he couldn't make it today, they'd have been fine. In my first pregnancy I had a panic attack, and his boss actually double checked with him to ensure he was going to meet me at the hospital rather than carry on working (he finished his work on the train on his way to hospital).

This isn't the first bleed I've had this pregnancy, I was bleeding about a month ago, but that was brown blood. I went to the hospital on my own then too as he'd just had a week off of work so didn't want to ask for the first Monday back off too. Yes, he could have gone in after scan.

I've managed to get a scan for tomorrow morning, and whilst I know there's nothing he can do today, I feel really let down! Would you feel let down or would you have happily packed DH off to work?

I think my husband would have gone to work too. Especially as there isnt much he can do. I know he would text regularly to check i was ok though

I'd expect him to go in but be contactable should the situation develop.

I'm not sure it's reasonable to take days off for moral support just in case there is a problem.

@midsummabreak my heart breaks for you

OP, I would have expected the moral support and concern for his babies unless there was a critical meeting but you said it wasn’t even work only a networking event.

On a separate note, I bled many times during my pregnancy starting at 9 weeks and several stays in hospital. My twins arrived super healthy so it can happen and not necessarily be bad. Keep posting on here, ring friends today, whatever it takes to get your emotions out and relieve the anxiety. It will feel like eternity but I am sending you tons of positive vibes for tomorrow ❤️

I’m so sorry you’re in this worrisome place. It’s terrifying. I’ve been there.
I bled throughout my pregnancy with DC2 (she’s 9 years old now) and we (DH and me) both had to keep on working. I’ve also miscarried (early) during DC2’s christening. Life has a way of timing things!

There’s an element of ‘life has to keep going’ during a miscarriage or threatened MC (hopefully that’s all this is). DH has to keep the bread on the table. You’ve just got to keep on keeping on and hope for the best. If your bleeding has calmed down, that’s a really, really good sign.

Strength and hugs to you, OP. Look after your baby and yourself. You can do it. ❤️

Thanks again, so much everyone. I really feel like my hand has been held with you all!

Husband just called and he's on his way home, no drama, the event finished early as raining here. Told him I have an appointment for scan tomorrow morning, he can't come as will look after our baby, but will come to waiting room. That's a weight off my mind that I don't need to worry about finding a babysitter.

We are going to go out this afternoon and take our minds off of it.

Hopefully all okay, but will update you tomorrow.... fingers crossed with a nice scan picture x

The twins are doing great, I'm 12 weeks today, and they are measuring at 11+5.

Thanks again for yesterday everyone xx

Oh that’s great news. Well done x

Been looking out for your update all day! Beautiful news 🤗. Go mum of twins! ❤️

Hooray. It's so scary when you feel like you're on your own but I'm glad all worked out well 💕

Yeah I really wouldn’t have a bath in your condition

Glad to hear all is ok!

That's great news

Yay that's lovely news! Glad all is well, and thankyou randomnamechange45 & LittleWing80 for your kind thoughts xx