What to do ?

[happycoffeedrinker1979]

Currently abroad with H and the 2 DS. Last night hes drunk after a day drinking. he rings me from the room to aggressively tell me to sort the shower head (I had changed the setting for my shower). I come back to do it, he is aggressive to me saying why did I bed to touch the shower head etc. Totally OTT. Long story short - I'm not letting him talk to me like that and tell him, hes in the shower and tries to close the glass shower screen, still f'ing at me, I open it, he closes it .. eventually it smashes and we both have cuts. He accuses me of purposely smashing it on him and smashes my sunglasses, screams as loud as he can in my face, tells me I'm drunk (I wasn't), I'm not a fit mum and I'm dangerous around the kids, grabs me to try to throw me out.
Our marriage is always up and down, I let alot of stuff go for the sake of the kids (not violent stuff), he has aspergers and social anxiety and there is always an Incident with him Every year on on holiday (not aimed at me, usually aggression towards airport staff although one year he did scream that I was a c**t in the middle if an airport in front of my kids and all because we walked off from the agreed meeting point so I could take the kids to the loo).
We have a week of holiday left, ge reckons he has a flight booked to go today home early.
Do I stay with this man ? He's all I've known for the last 20 years and I will be a lot worse off financially without him. No holidays for the kids, a lot of niceties at home will have to go, one of them will be distraught if we split up, the other 2 hate him (asd)

Firstly, I very much hope that he has got a flight home booked.

I'm guessing the time where you are is pretty much the same as in the UK?
Did you sleep in the same room last night?

What normally happens when he gets drunk and ridiculous? Is he likely to apologise and be willing to talk?

His behaviour was unacceptable but if he acknowledges this and is prepared to fix up, it might be something you can work through, if that's what you want.

It sounds like this might be the straw that breaks the camels back.
If you think it's time to end the relationship, please do so. Your child will get over it in time and it sounds like it's best for the other 2.
Finances don't matter. A happy family matters.

Having Asperger isn’t an excuse to be a nasty abusive cock. Please don’t tolerate this for the sake of niceties or holidays, horrendous example of a man to your sons, let him go and prepare to divorce him.

We have been sleeping in separate rooms with time kids who have ASD.
I've witnessed a lot of drunken related aggression aimed at possesions and some times other people. Over the years there have been a lot of incidents. Hes barred from the local social club for aggression and swearing which eventually led to him waiting for the head committee member to 'get him' and the police called.
We have a lot of financial stuff tied up together, for starters we have a house we are renovating and can't sell for 5 months due to capital gains
Tax.
I'm not going to let him ruin The kids holiday, he has yet to wake up and see what today brings....

You are putting holidays and “niceties” (??) ahead of your children’s emotional well-being? For real? Words fucking fail me.

I grew up with a drunk aggressive violent father - at 39 I’m still dealing with the after effects.
For your children’s sake I would urge you to give them a safe life.
No amount of holidays is worth living in hell for.

The financial stuff can be unravelled. I would separate from him, he needs to address his drinking for one thing. Is it worth staying with a drunken aggressive twat for the reasons you described? Life isn't meant to be full of misery and unhappiness.

Why are you subjecting your children to this?

What to do??! Start taking steps to end this awful relationship, obviously.

Protect yourself and your children. Leave him.