I just don’t enjoy it with him!

[abbey119]

Been in a new relationship for 3 months he’s amazing in so many ways but I really don’t enjoy sex with him! Im 29 and I have a thyriod issue so my sex drive isn’t what it used to be but I find myself dreading him staying as I know I’ll have to have sex with him. He isn’t my usual type looks wise but I do find him attractive but when it comes to sex with him I just don’t feel interested. He is very full on and always touching, kissing hugging, holding hands, grabbing my bum etc so maybe I just get so much physical affection from him when I comes to sex I just don’t want anymore closeness 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m not sure if it’s just me or if he isn’t right for me.

If you don't like the constant touching, you need to tell him. If you don't wnlant to have sex with him you need to say no. Honestly unless he's abusive it's that simple.

Maybe taking the pressure of you feeling like you have to put out will make you want sex more. If he's a decent gut in sure he wouldn't want you to force yourself to have sex with him against your own will.

And maybe he's just not the right guy.

You don't fancy him and he sounds full on physically. I'd be less than pleased by someone grabbing my bum etc

You don't want to have sex with him. What more do you need to know?! Finish it now before either of you get more emotionally invested.

You are dating, which means you are seeing if you are compatible. If you’re dreading him staying over 12 weeks in, realistically, where do you see this going? Don’t waste his or your time not addressing this.

If you arent sexually compatible, then end it. You're only 3 months in. You shouldnt EVER dread having sex with anyone, thats the most basic relationship rule.

Maybe you're turned off him because he keeps fiddling with you, or maybe its the other way round - he has picked up on your reluctance to have sex, and is clumsily trying to make you "want him" again. However, it doesnt actually matter. Cut this one loose, and give both of you a fair chance of finding someone more suitable.

He isn’t your type! You are literally trying to force yourself to have sex with someone you don’t want to! No wonder you’re dreading spending time with him. Sometimes it takes our brains awhile to catch up, especially when on paper the person seems to have good potential. You gave it a chance but think it’s time to throw this one back....

stop wasting his time and yours.
If you know the feeling isn't there, just end it and stop using him as some kind of safety net.
It will leave you both free to find someone more compatible.