Desire to sleep with other men

[Melanie1811]

Me and husband are together 4 years. We have a child. I love him, we have a great sex life. But! Every time I have a conversation with another man, I start to imagine how he looks naked and how great it would be to sleep with him. I don’t know what to do about the thoughts and desires . I would not cheat on my husband, but how to stop the desire to sleep with other men? I don’t wanna feel that way, but it’s becoming very strong and every day I spent quiet a time fantasising about sleeping with other men

how to stop the desire to sleep with other men?

Grow up?

Use your fantasies to spice it up with your husband. It will never be as good in real life as it is in your head.

I guess its human nature to be curious. Thinking and doing are different things of course. I see women most days that id love to bed given the chance and i have been given the chance in the past but havent

Sexual fantasies about having sex with other people are absolutely fine. Men do this all the time and it's just dismissed as part of being male.

We women however suffer from the centuries misogynistic shaming of female desire to ensure we stayed chaste. According to the advertising that surrounds us the only arousing thoughts allowed are about low fat yogurt, chocolate, sometimes ecstasy comes from a stain remover that works and at a push topless hunk from Diet Coke ads.

Incidentally as if on cue OP I was reading The Week mag today and this snippet caught my eye. You may find it interesting.

As long as you don't act on it and betray your partner, sexual fantasies are yours and yours alone so enjoy them.

It’s normal to want to have sex ( why do so many people say “sleep with”?) with others. There is really no need to be conerned about it.

Having fantasies is quite normal and they don't last.

Cheeseandcrackers said: "It will never be as good in real life as it is in your head."

Very true.

@MrsMop7 touché

Also maybe try not to be an utter bitch

It's normal to fantasise but there's something wrong if it's taking over all your thoughts. As a PP said maybe try to spice things up with your DH. Did you have many partners before him?

"It will never be as good in real life as it is in your head."

Um...