I have a lovely DP of 6 months ( but we've known each other 15 yrs on and off )
He's fun and sociable and loving but I'm financially struggling being able to afford the whole relationship thing.
He's never married, no kids, bought the council house his mum used to live in and earns nearly double my salary.
I'm in a high rent area so I can get DD into a good school and work full time.
He has a good idea of my financial situation as we've spoken about the fact I have very little disposable income, how I gave to save to do things etc but I don't think he really understands what that means in real life.
He's constantly suggesting things to do and places to go and usually my default response is no.
In the last 2 weeks we've been to London to the theatre ( tickets he bought me for Valentines ) plus it's been his birthday ( we went to a music festival as his favourite band was on ) he bought the tickets fir the festival but I obviously bought him a birthday present too.
The problem is all the other associated costs of doing these type of things. Transport, meals, drinks etc
Even though he always spends more than me I just can't afford to carry on spending what I currently am.
We've spoken about it a few times but he doesn't seem to cotton on.
I honestly don't think I can afford the be in a relationship. How does everyone else do it?