Hi
I’ve been lurking for a while. I was married for 16 years and had 2DC. First H was awful cheated before we got married and had numerous affairs and controlled every aspect of my life from what I wore to who I saw. 4 years ago I had enough so I left and went through a hell of a divorce and courts he made sure I lost everything except my children. I met someone else about 18 months later and last year we got married and have bought a house together. All sound wonderful but I’m struggling DH let’s me have freedom and is adores me though a bit lazy and doesn’t really do much with my DC. (But I think that is more my doing than his) He has 3 children from previous marriage and a one night stand he’s not the greatest dad to them but he’s never really had the chance so he’s not sure what to do.
My biggest thing is I’m very defensive of my DC and take what DH says as criticism I’m not sure if I’m struggling with being my own person as I’ve had so many years being told what to do and walking on eggshells so I’m bringing negativity to this marriage expecting it to go wrong and I’m constantly waiting for him to leave. Sorry for long message. Would love advice on those who are in second marriage.