Me husband and our 2 DC recently went on holiday for the first time in over 4 years. I was a bit apprehensive about going on this trip as he’s not been a very nice person to be around lately. Constantly putting me down, forever finding things to criticize and being a right miserable bastard about absolutely everything. We have a nice life no money issues, good jobs so I don’t know what’s caused this recent change.
Our holiday was not great as he pretty much single handedly ruined it. All week it was constant moaning and complaining about everything. It’s too hot, it’s too busy, the hotel wasn’t great, the food was awful, all the kids in the hotel were too loud.
All these things were my fault as I picked the hotel. I asked him multiple times to look at the hotel and check out the trip advisor reviews but he couldn’t be bothered so it was all on me.
All he did the entire holiday was to read and to complain. He barley interacted with me or the kids during the day. Refused to get in the pool and play with them. Most days he wouldn’t even come to lunch with us.
Late one evening I wasn’t very well and needed to go to the pharmacy, our hotel was in the middle of nowhere and was told by reception I needed to take a taxi to the next town over it was a 30 minute round trip. We all waited outside and as soon as the taxi approached he said him and the kids were heading back to the bar. I assumed we all were going. I pleaded with him to come but he refused. I was absolutely terrified (maybe it was a over reaction) but I was in the middle of nowhere in a foreign country where I don’t speak a word of the language with a phone that only worked on WiFi. I was absolutely fuming with just how selfish he was that night.
Since coming home nothing has improved he’s still constantly finding things to moan about. It is all the time but mostly petty things.
He’s become even more selfish in regards to the DC. They had a busy week for the end of term and have put on events such as a school production where one of our DC was the lead role. He did nothing but complain about having to go and watch the production and why do I make him go and watch these things.
They had a lovely treat day arranged and the school provided transport on the way but we had to collect them. I had planned too collect them but I had a car accident two days prior (not my fault) the cars not a write off but it had been checked out and it was deemed unsafe to drive. I said the day of the accident he would need to drive to collect the kids, he agreed. On the day we went to collect them he seemed surprised (he clearly hadn’t listened) and complained all the way there and back and was in a mood all evening. When I asked why he said I’d clearly left it to the moment we had to leave to tell him about it and I always do this. I honestly don’t, he just doesn’t listen to a word I say.
I am so fed up with this selfish me me me attitude and the constant complaining that I want to leave but I’ve no idea how to go about it. Do I talk to him and give him the chance to try and change or will this be my life from now on?