What do you do when something feels wrong but he says not

[Rubbinghimsweetly2]

Just that really.

Feel like he is avoiding me, he says no. Fair enough he is very busy at the moment working every evening and weekend.

All this might be in my head but im looking at what he does when i say to him I think he is avoiding me. He doesnt really try to resssure me, just says nothing wrong but in a slightly raised voice like he is annoyed.

Absolutely no affair going on here.

How do you know there's no affair? You'd be surprised how opportunistic people can be.

He works with my brother, pretty sure he would tell me.

No strange behaviour with phone or anything like that. In facrmt was running out the door last week and to save me running upstairs for mine he handed me his and said here use mine. No secret phone either.

If he's working every evening and weekend then he's not going to have time to see you. Is this extra work temporary?

Something on his mind...or maybe just not happy with his life. Which might also mean - not haply with you. Or he could just be busy.

Gotta say, it's a bad sign when you start feeling like you need reassurance in a relationship that things are OK. And a worse sign when they don't (or won't) give you any.

Something is up.

We live together so we see eavh other every dsy but are like dhips passing in the night.

Im not looking for reassurance as such just want him to tell me if there is something wrong but i have a history of anxiety so could just be me being silly.

After i posted this this morning we had a chat and he said nothing is wrong dont worry. And he has been lovely, asked me uf i wanted to go out with him but i cant as im going to be working all day reconciling bank accounts back as far as 2016. Kill me.

The work he is doing now is to save for a deposit so that we can move out of my house that i own with my ex husband. He is doibg really well and has put away 10k in 3 months.

Before he started this extra work we had a great relationship, no reason not to trust him, no arguments, both of us have always said this is the best relationship we have ever been in. He proposed 6 months ago.

Did you really have to do the accounting? It sounds like you need the time together, and it's no good getting a deposit together at all costs if one of those costs turns out to be the relationship.