DP has a DS to an ex who is 13 and rude persistently to me and has been since way before our DD was a peanut in my womb.
Constantly makes a mess, repeats what I say back childishly and makes digs about my DD (who is 6 months) I’ve brought this up to DP a few times and it’s caused arguments in the past.
Recently DP has been arranging with his ex for his boy to come stay on days he is at work. This means I have him for 12 hours with my LO too.
He doesn’t make any of his own meals or clean up behind himself and when I try to get him to help he fakes tears and his mums had a go before about him being sensitive so to meet his needs basically.
We also spend most of our spare cash on him yet he’s forever calling DD spoilt due to her secondhand toys from family. She doesn’t even have a bedroom as we only have 2 and it was his before I was pregnant although he’s only here twice a week.
Anytime I try to talk to DP about how ridiculous this all is and how his DS acts it is another long heated debate and then he tries to step in and make changes but his DS then refuses to visit so it goes back to how it was just so he has contact. As he knows I’ll say no about taking his son on my own m he’s now arranging days and not telling me he’s coming up so I’ll be playing with DD when the door goes and he’s there with bags.
I totally understand it’s his son and he wants contact as much as possible but surely this is on days when he’s off work. For reference he does 5 12 hour shifts and 2 days off.
Sorry for the long post but I’m at my wits end and being on edge all the time is no good for DD and I’m not sure if I want to continue the relationship anymore. Would I be unreasonable to leave?