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Online bloke rang and asked how much I weigh

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Howdoyousleep · 26/07/2019 20:11

I was chatting briefly online to a guy who seemed really nice and he asked me to meet him for a drink. Thank god we chatted on the phone first.

Within about one minute he asked, how much do you weigh as I don’t do fatties. Then he said, can I make love to you tonight? I said, I’m not looking for anything casual and he said, neither am I. He said, I’d love to take you for a drink on the weekend. I said, you’ve put me off now, we’ll leave it there. Then he sent me two texts saying, sorry x.

I’m thinking I’ve had a lucky escape. Poor woman who does meet up with him. Eugh.

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fiydwi · 26/07/2019 22:55

My response would have been “you don’t do fatties and I don’t do twatties” and blocked him!
Arsehole x

Whattheduckisthis · 26/07/2019 23:24

Jeeze this sounds like my ex.

First phone call he stated what size clothes are you because anything about a 10 is disgusting.... and i was stupid enough to put it aside and be stuck with the piece of shit for 2 years - lucky escape OP lucky escape x

MidnightAtTheOasis · 26/07/2019 23:32

He’s allowed to have a type: thin birds.
You’re allowed to have a type: blokes with some slight grasp of social acceptability.

TheBrilloPad · 26/07/2019 23:40

@Xxalisoncxx "Can I make love to your bum?"
😂😂😂

I can't cope! How do men like that exist?!! What do they expect women to say?! I actually think I'd prefer a "I want to fuck you in the ass" to a "can I make love to your bum" 😂

rainbowlou · 26/07/2019 23:41

What a dick. I hope you asked if he was always a twat as you don’t do twatties!
I remember minding my own business having fun with my friends when a ‘man’ walked up to me in a nightclub and said ‘you’d be fit if you lost a bit of weight, sorry won’t be buying you a drink tonight’
Obviously I was devastated
(Seriously though, I felt like shit about myself and cut the night short 🙁)
Why do some people think they have the right to judge others by the way they look??

RoseOfSharyn · 26/07/2019 23:46

Mother87 I have another good one...

Told the bloke before weet that I had kids. On the night of the date he asked who was looking after them. I said it was their night with their dad. His reply: "are they all...erm...in the same place?"
I asked if he was trying to not so subtly find out if all my kids had the same father.
He looked sheepish and changed the subject.

MummyShah369 · 26/07/2019 23:51

You should have said I am a size 8... but now you will never find out...

SandyY2K · 27/07/2019 00:10

What an idiot. I'd have hung up and blocked him instantly without saying another word.

Lacebug · 27/07/2019 00:15

Did you ask "How big is your penis?", then say "Sorry, I don't do needle dicks"?

I suppose, technically that would have been sinking to his level but tempting, nonetheless. At least he stopped you wasting any more time on him by showing his true colours.

MrsAJ27 · 27/07/2019 00:16

Yuk...fucking idiot

Cosentyx · 27/07/2019 00:20

So glad you blocked him. What a douche canoe.

Feurata · 27/07/2019 13:49

Yes, I also talked with several such guys. At first they behaved well, but then it was just weird. I sometimes look for dating through www.loveaholics.com/ and I come across such guys. I usually stop communicating after such weirdness. Because I'm looking for adequate people.

Sexnotgender · 27/07/2019 13:53

Gosh he sounds wonderful, however could you resist!

Seriously though... what the fuck is wrong with some men?

tierraJ · 27/07/2019 13:54

Omg. I'm about to start OLD again but this is putting me right off!!

KM99 · 27/07/2019 14:01

Urgh, online dating is a cesspit sometimes. Definitely had a few dodgy experiences with it. I remember a bloke messaging me but I my dickhead radar was tingly so I made a polite excuse and stopped responding. He responds "yeah, you are sexy but fat". What a tactic to get me to change my mind.

Sexnotgender · 27/07/2019 14:06

Omg. I'm about to start OLD again but this is putting me right off!!

They’re not all dribbling Neanderthals don’t worry! I met my husband OLD and he’s amazing.

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Howdoyousleep · 27/07/2019 14:33

The thing is, he didn’t come across like that in his profile at all. He sounded intelligent and sensible.

I didn’t particularly want to ring him. I would have preferred to just meet for a drink but I am so glad I didn’t. What a waste of time that would have been.

As soon as I spoke to him, I didn’t like his voice. He also said a few other weird things, all in the space of about two minutes eg he was from a ‘shithole’, was I posh? He thought I was ‘naughty’, he could tell .

It has put me off completely tbh as it’s very slim pickings on dating sites in my age group!

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Bookworm4 · 27/07/2019 14:36

And they wonder why they’re single 🙄

RantyAnty · 27/07/2019 14:45

Yuck. So many charmers.
Too bad you can't slam the phone down when you hang up, like in the olden days.

1forAll74 · 27/07/2019 14:53

Oh dear,,is this really the way of dating and potential meet ups these days.All you ever hear about these days,is people meeting up via chat sites,or dating sites,and all the odd bod blokes around, and sad and stupid situations. Its all open to the weirdest of people.

I have just been looking at an old photo of mine.It was taken the night I met my first handsome boyfriend when I was about 20. We are sitting at a table at a dance, and he had just bought me a small glass of sherry, it was about 1960 ha ha, we looked like people from a romantic old film, was lovely though !

ysmaem · 27/07/2019 15:04

That's just downright rude! Definitely lucky escape.
I remember talking to a man online once and I remember us sort of agreeing to meet up but before we got to the point of meeting he confessed to having a girlfriend so I backed out of meeting up and he went full on psycho calling me a cock loving whore.

Gingerkittykat · 27/07/2019 15:54

I wonder if those tactics ever work, or work enough of the time to make sending dickpics and telling a woman you want to snort coke of her arse as an opening line worthwhile?

My one foray into online dating didn't last long because of those type of men.

Persea · 27/07/2019 15:58

I’ve been chatting to one who keeps talking to me via his dog - ie Max will chase you back to ours.
I told him last night to fuck off and this weird ‘third dog’ thing was creepy. Let alone the fact I do not want to be chased by anyone. 😱

MrsDilligaf · 28/07/2019 08:22

ugh... I remember the "I can tell you're a naughty girl" comments so well. OLD can be a minefield, but there are some good ones out there.

My DH has never done the cringy sexeee chat with me (aside from when we've been pissed as farts) but when I was OLD it was an immediate "ODFOD" and block, it was a real turn off.

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