Help ex

[ElizabethG]

Hi. I am with my partner of 4 years, he has a son, who I adore and adores me. However, I have been thinking of my ex, I don’t think there’s a day that goes by where I don’t think of him. I ended up bumping into him last year, we had a drink and I felt everything come back for him feeling wise. I was young when I was with my ex we was together 5 years. I left, and I regret it massively. My ex told me he still loves me and would love for us to have another go. I split up with my current partner as he was an idiot and took me and his child for granted, he completely changed and I took him back, told my ex I’m back with him, nothing happened by the way with ex. Just words. (which isn’t great still I know). However, he messaged me just asking how I was other week and we chatted and I can’t get him out my head, I feel such a child. But I have no idea what to do.
My current partner has changed in great ways since I took him back but he still have messed up getting drunk not coming home 7 in the morning, no communication to where he was, etc., telling me he’s coming home from work but then doesn’t etc., I am happy, I do love him but I can’t keep thinking about my ex and that will I regret not trying again, I don’t want to be that woman. I am not a cheater. - words what we exchanged are still very hurtful I understand that. Just need to advice. X

Sorry this OP but ir's very confusing.

You still want sexual relationship with your most recent. X

He's still not an adult emoetionally.

Ok so you and your current partner have no children together?

You love your DP, but are you in love with him?
Do you regret leaving your ex because of what could have been? Why did you leave?

I think that you shouldn't settle for someone you love if you're wishing you were with someone else.

Would you be ok leaving your DP if things didn't work out with the ex?

If yoy get ab adult response from any of your parent figures, what would that mean?

Leave your partner & have some time on your own thinking about what you really want. It seems you keep lurching from one to another & then back again. You sound a little immature if you don't mind me saying.

Mother has died. Friends and family prefer the ex, more my cup of tea apparently. Father likes current one but that's because he's seen him a lot more and got to know him, but even father said give him one last chance. I darent tell father about this. I left ex because we were young when we got together, we was together 5years, and I didn't feel I did anything I should have been doing for my age at the time. To which lasted 6 months having fun. I decided it wasn't for me anyway. I've always been more mature for my age. I do still sleep with current partner yes. I don't think I am in live anymore, but it's what it could be but he's proving he isn't an adult inside still, he has a child. We get on like two peas in a pod. Maybe it's the family situation I'm loving more.

I'm not saying I'm going to jump from one to another at all. Just confused and needed to talk to people who are not around me. I would never jump from one to another. I'm not like that, but having feelings for two people is so confusing and upsetting as I'm not used to it.

I see where you may have got that from, but I meant when I left him last year, I stayed on my own didn't meet my ex nor anything or anyone. I wanted space, but my current partner wanted another chance, so I did, told my ex to let him know. I didn't flit from one to another, I was in the process of leaving my current partner at the time I bumped into my ex.

I'd end things with current bf and do nothing with your ex either. Have sometime to yourself to think about what you really want. Whatever you do....don't cheat. And don't go from one man to the next. Take sometime. You may realise you don't want either of them.

I wouldn't cheat, I've said that.
Thank for you opinions. X

Yeah I second spending some time alone.

I read that as you and DP have separated twice in 4 years? You don't think you're in love with him. I don't think he's the one.

No, once. Last year.