I am coming out of abusive marriage and very vary of men in general at the moment. Not sure if that skews my perspective a little
Keen to hear your thoughts on something work related.
A male colleague got promoted over me recently (bit complicated but in reality he caught up with my level - different grades are mixed at different levels). Basically on paper, if someone doesn’t understand / knows that, he is higher than me. We work closely together. He is a “talker” and I am a “thinker/doer”, if you know what I mean. A little power shift have been noticed since.
On couple of occasions I found myself thinking he is withholding info (not quite sure if intentional or he just doesn’t join the dots) or when I challenge his point of view he twists that a different question was asked (and it is hard for me to steer the conversation back to a person that asked it). Few very subtle incidents but as is say - he is a talker. I think behind this nice charming persona there is a bit of agenda going on
I am trying to work out what approach I should take. I wouldn’t not hesitate to challenge him in a situations like that and limit my support for him, but equally I think he would have a say in my performance appraisal (grades/levels I mentioned above).
Don’t want to shoot myself in a foot!