Self conscious about body issue

[WaterWorld66]

I generally feel good about my body but having had 3 emergency C sections, unfortunately I have that unsightly overhang thing in which a small ridge of fat hangs over the top of my scar. I’m a normal BMI and suspect that I would need to get down to about BMI 19-20 to get rid of it, which I’m not likely to do.

The problem is that I may be about to embark on a new sexual relationship, the first since having kids. The man in question is lovely and his ex wife also had to have a C section and wasn’t ultra slim. So my question is, do all women who have C sections have that unsightly bit of fat overhanging? I just don’t want him to be shocked. If he’s seen something like that before I would feel a lot better about things.

I have it. It's not ideal but my boyfriend does not care one bit. It's help me care less tbh. He thinks I'm gorgeous 🙂

Ye I have it, hubby doesn't care. Your new man won't either, have fun

Yes, I have it too.
Any man I've been with hasn't even mentioned it.
Be proud of it.
If a new partner can't live it then they can fuck off.
It's part of you.
It's part of what you went through to have your beautiful children.

I have it too
And extremely wrinkled skin all over my stomach which makes it droop and look worse
Husband doesn't seem to mind but I do get down about it

I'm in the same boat as you OP except I am overweight and old so it's probably worse. I'm self-conscious about it and never wear bikinis. That's about it really. Since last March I've had five flings with new guys (post-divorce mania!) and not one has turned a hair or even mentioned it. All too hung up about their own bodies I reckon.

I have it. I’m a 24.5bmi and it looks terrible but I’m the lightest I’ve ever been.

DH doesn’t mind it but hates that it gets me down so much

Do bear in mind that as pp said, he'll have his own bits that have seen better days. And nights.

The vast majority of Men really don’t give a fuck about these sorts of things. Confidence.....men love it!

Even if you lose weight it won’t go
The only thing that will get rid of it is a tummy tuck
Best thing I ever did

I honestly think that most women overestimate how how concerned most men are about these things. It’ll be fine OP!

As one lover said the last thing I will be thinking about is that when I am in that place ...

In my experience, when it comes to sex/getting undressed, men are very unfocused (is that a word?!) on details like that. He won't care. Have some fun, OP

Thanks everyone xx

A good man won't mind it op. If he did it would be a massive red flag.

Unfortunately the slimmer you get the more it hangs though.

Seems the only one making an issue out of this OP is you

He certainly wont mind, no point comparing yourself to his previous partners it isnt healthy

Just have fun stay calm and relaxed enjoy yourself

@Sosayi I’m so close to starting to plan for a tummy tuck. Do you have any advise or information for someone who is thinking about it?

I have two post cardiac surgery scars.
And most recently I've had to have another surgery which means another scar .
People say own them, but they do make me very self conscious. The one done when I was little wasn't done very neatly...I get a lot of questions about that one! People don't realise how it brings stuff up questioning someone about a scar.