Contact for a 9 month old baby

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Hi All,

How much contact should a 9 month old baby have with her Dad, we live a 90minutes drive away from him, she is still breastfed but doesn’t drink from a bottle (no matter how hard I’ve tried) and she currently cosleeps. Her dad work long hours Monday - Friday in the city. He hasn’t ever looked after her by himself, this is his choice not mine. I just want to get off to the right start with coparenting but also and most importantly want what’s best for our DD. Exp hasn’t wanted to discuss visitation, as I think he lives in hope that we will get back together and right now just sees her on a Saturday but I want to get a good idea.

I am also aware that as she grows and her needs change so will the contact.

Thanks

Little and often is best.

Are you happy to be in a room with him or nearby so you can feed and he can spend a bit more time with your child?

Are there any safeguarding concerns?

Totally fine with been around while she still needs me, safe guarding - there has been times when he is perhaps slightly lazy with looking after her and she could have got hurt but I think this comes from not knowing how to look after a baby and hoping that perhaps with a bit of time he’ll learn but for now would want to be fairly close by. Then hopefully in time she can have overnights with her dad too. Not so bothered about him but do want her to have a great relationship with her dad.

Have you considered mediation? It's not always for people who aren't getting on. It can be really helpful.