Reciprocated crush and I’m in a committed relationship

[Juliasings]

Hello,
This is my first post so please accept my apologies for lack of acronyms!
So, I met a young man through work about 8 months ago and fancied him straight away but thought nothing more of it. However recently we started texting, just innocuous stuff, happy birthday, how’s your hols, that sort of thing then it came to a head at the weekend, he was very
Suggestive over a text, I reciprocated, we had both been drinking and basically lost our filters. I was so excited and happy to be looked at sexually by someone else, however, my LTB came home and found the texts open on my phone and all hell broke loose. I quite rightly told my secret crush not to contact me, delete me from social media, and block my LTB - which he has. No I’m crushing harder than ever, obsessing why he hasn’t got in contact with me despite me telling him not to. All I want it to listen to the chemicals in my body and the electric physical attraction we both felt and and go get that man!
On top of this, I was initially in the doghouse with my LTB but now we have having the most mind blowing sex everyday, like when we first got together! I don’t understand what’s going on, I’m super horny for both my LTB and my crush! Help!

The Jeremy Kyle generation 😂

So according to you - the Jeremy Kyle generation are toddlers who would not text sexual message whilst in a long-term relationship?

Okay.

Your boyfriend should leave you for the simple fact that you do not sound like a very nice person.

Someone who will treat somebody they are supposed to love, in the way you have treated your boyfriend, is shady as fuck.

The fact that you don't really think you've done anything wrong, speaks volumes.

If you want to explore your lustfulness 🙄, do it whilst you're single, then nobody will get hurt.

It's like doublespeak.. the thought that the Jeremy Kyle generation = having morals and dignity!

This can’t be a real poster such is the ridiculousness being spouted!

You are always going to get lots of 'oh my goodness you rotten cheat', replies on here OP, don't take it to heart.

It's totally normal to find other people attractive when you're in a relationship, I'd actually be quite worried of my partner didn't. The thing that has crossed the line is the fact you have entertained his suggestion, and quite rightly your LTB is p'ed off.

What's done is done, think very carefully now about moving forward. Start by reflecting on why you think this happened in the first place, was it because of something (even very small) missing from your relationship, or just a foolish moment of lust.

Make a decision about how commited you are to your LTB, if you decide to stay with him, know that this cannot happen again because it's a betrayal of trust and faith. Take precautions to distance yourself from work guy, and think about ways you can focus on building what you have with your BF instead. Think of how he might feel know, you need to show him that you are into him and he can trust you, if you decide you want to make things work.

Goodluck OP

I admire your bravery, you're following your feelings and that's the most important thing, regardless of anyone else' feelings right? If you can explain it away with pseudo scientific crap like 'second brains' and chemical rushes, then it isn't really cheating, its just nature.

I've reached Mrsmorses conclusion, OP is just too superior and also contradictory to be real.

I wonder that you posted at all seeing as you have such a wonderful insight into your feelings and reasons and everyone else's

We're taking this down whilst we check things out behind the scenes.

Morning everyone, we've had a look behind the scenes and, as far as we can see, all is above board, so we've opened the thread up again.

Dirty texts have nothing to do with the feeling in your stomach. The only 'second brain' you were thinking with was your fanny.

You arent open minded or enlightened. You are the sort of person that thinks, by sayo g you are open minded you can get away with doing what you want, under the guise 'it's not my fault you arent as open minded as me'

And of course we have all felt real love, lost and fanny gallops.

However, a lot if people will out the respect their have for their partner above getting off on dirty texts.

I call BS or troll on this.

You go girl!!!! Maybe your love interest and your LTB would be up for a threesome? It can't hurt to ask!!!

How would you feel if your “LTB” had done the same to you?

@dangerrabbit op is so open minded and enlightened she would have understood that he was thinking with his stomach and his second brain penis.

She would have been fully accepting, of course

Cough cough bollocks Cough cough

Hiding I've never had fanny gallops.

You’re cheating.

@ShatnersWig would the equivalent be 'dick hops'?

Or 'ball bounces'?

@Hiding I couldn't possibly comment

Having a crush while in a relationship isn’t the issue. Texting and letting that crush know you like her while already with someone is the issue. Also, how giddy you seem to be is again somewhat normal but embarrassing. Stop trying to defend how you feel, choose a guy, stick with them and move on.

Its not a crush, it’s an emotional affair that you are minimising

it’s an emotional affair that you are minimising

Exactly this. And then because people are calling it out for what it is, you get defensive. If your partner has any brains he'll leave. If not then he will learn the hard way when he finds out you've taken things further with this guy or the next that comes along..... Might not be full on cheating but it sounds like you'd be open to it if given the opportunity.

Who has a sulk because the guy you told not to contact you doesn't? Are you 15?! Your partner is an idiot if he stays.