Well, my original thread was just taken down because mumsnet dont apparently like threads like this. I guess some loser reported me for using a 'real' name. Yeah, a real name in quotation marks. Its apparently fine for ppl to behave inappropriately, but not fine to out them with a 'fake' name.
Here it is again, and thanks to the ppl on the original thread who were more sympathetic that my H has been messing around with some willing colleague, rather than worrying about the woman who was behaving inappropriately:
It pays to know who your H is working with on long deployments. For example, on a nine month sail around the world, stopping in at various lovely places. Let's say, for example, that they start to communicate with you less and less because of differing time zones, and have lots of free time ashore in exotic ports. They'll want to sightsee, eat out and go drinking in the evening...Knowing full well you'll only know what they tell you. So try and make sure you know someone there who's on your side that you can speak to. NOT someone like this lovely lady, lets call her B. (Is that ok?) An officer who should know better. Who thinks it's appropriate to get drunk and walk from the ship to a bar onshore, hand in hand with your husband (not usually a touchy feely kind of person, who has only held hands with family, gf and wife).
Obviously knowing its inappropriate (as someone who did this with mine said when asked what had gone on). Apparently you shouldn't ask because it's inappropriate. Er, why are you doing it then? Because I'm on the other side of the world and unlikely to find out, and you feel like a bit of a thrill?
So ladies, ask around, and if you find out that your H or bf is serving with such a person, be very wary.
(Additional info from q asked previously, yes, this was my H, yes he is a dick, yes, he was her boss but i found out too late to do anything about it. She didnt admit anything to me, just said 'this is inappropriate, he was my boss and twice my age', then blocked me. If it was a stupid, funny incident as H claimed, then you'd have thought he could have remembered the joke/circumstance, seeing as he remembered holding her hand. You'd also have thought that if it were innocent, she would have liked me (the wife) to have known that, and would have had no issues admitting that.)