Can anyone give me a handhold and some advice?

[Callthefishwife]

I think I need to divorce my husband. The relationship has broken down bit by bit, and I can't do it any more. Husband criticises the way I dress, gets abusive in arguments, and I feel like we're flogging a dead horse. We have no sex life, no social life, and our values are diverging at an increasingly rapid pace.

We have a 4yo child about to start school in September. Husband earns a lot more than me. The house is in his name.

He doesn't want to split up. I don't either but I can't carry on this way, and we've been here several times before. Nothing changes.

I have no idea what to actually do. I have no family, very little in the way of a support network, and no clue about the first steps of actually ending the marriage. As soon as I tell him it's over, I can kiss goodbye any civility or cooperation on his part.

Can anyone offer me some advice and/or a handhold? I'm devastated and scared, and all the information on CAB / Relate etc. seems overwhelming.

I feel for you and I have been in your position. When you say you have no family, do you actually mean no one? Is there anyone who could help you with a deposit to rent?

Find a private therapist who works from home, just go yourself if your partner wont join you. DO NOT GO TO RELATE. I tried with my ex many years ago, it was an old converted town house and it was like a 4 floored conveyor belt of couples screaming at each other. A real house of horrors.
We found a nice woman who did it from her front room and that was much easier/comfortable.